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post #51 of 54 Old 08-14-2013, 09:19 AM
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I've been riding for fourteen years, and have definitely had my experience with some brash trainers. I've met ones that yell, get frustrated, and ones that don't do either, but that I simply don't get along with. I think it's fairly common in the horse world (particularly with the english disciplines?)

That said, blatantly insulting you is out of line, and disrespectful. You are her client, and need to be treated as such.
More than that, having you jump higher than you are ready is downright dangerous. I would suggest finding a new barn, or this woman could break your desire to ride. It's only a matter of time before you don't find it fun anymore.
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post #52 of 54 Old 08-14-2013, 01:14 PM
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Finding the "right" instructor can be challenging. Some will build you up to the point that you think you are better than you are and others just tear you up. Neither one is a good choice. It's best to find a happy medium.

My first English instructor just told me how great she thought my riding was and would say "that girl can sit the trot like a Grand Prix rider" I switched to a real Dressage Instructor after my English Instructor recommended me to her and guess what?

According to my new trainer, I have a chair seat, and I'm so unbalanced that I could potentially make her horse go lame if I rode every day. Yes she says mean things and but also compliments me when I do something well. She doesn't yell but she has a bit of a dramatic flare.

I've noticed that though about a lot of horse trainers. They all seem to have a bit of a rough edge. Some worse than others. Yours is definetely on the abusive side and not worth your time.
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post #53 of 54 Old 08-14-2013, 05:14 PM
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Honestly from the way you describe her, she ssounds a LOT like Val Stanton from Heartland...

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post #54 of 54 Old 08-24-2013, 01:53 PM
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I say the exact same thing as everybody else does. You have to find another trainer! You really do!!

Back when I was about 16 years old, I had a trainer who behaved the exact same way as your trainer behaves towards you. He pulled my self esteem so far down that I stopped riding entirely for years. I am 30 years old now and it's only a few years ago that I got back up on the horses again.

Let me tell you something. You truly don't need her at all!! If that's how she teaches you, through talking to you in this nasty way as she does, she's teaching you only to stop trusting and stop believing in yourself as a rider and nothing else. Also what she tells me is that is a bad trainer, who does not understand the art of plain, ordinary, simple communication.

I dont know how old you are, or your situation or how you are as a rider. I dont know anything about you, but I truly do not wish for you or anybody else to experience what I experienced. Being pulled down to level 0 in my believe in myself as a rider. You do not need that and you do not deserve that either. No body does. SO, do yourself the favor and look for another trainer and one who knows how to speak properly to his/her students.
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