Are bossy trainers better? Good question - I've never used a dressage trainer that wasn't bossy/prissy/Type AAA - do they exist? LOL! I'd love to hear what others think as well!
Haha! Actually I did
find one that is in NOOOO way a Type "AAA", bossy, or prissy, as you put it! She got her graduate degree from Meredith Manor, rode wth the Royal Lippizzaners, and is as sweet as can be. Before the barn where she had her lesson horses closed down, I had taken quite a few lessons with her, and got to know her personality well. She would bend over backwards to help me understand something. Usually our "1-hour" lesson would be much, much longer, because I asked so many questions! And she never demanded any more money for it either!
I was very surprised that no one else utilizes her talents, so that's why I posted this question. I've suggested that they take lessons from her, since she's so good, and so calm & sane, but they harbor some sort of resentment that their trainers have passed on to them. It's like a child hating something that its parent hates, lol! It's so ridiculous!
So yes, they DO exist! It's just hard to find them! And who would've thought that I'd find her in IOWA, of all places?!
Onuilmar - I'm not super confident either. In fact, when I started taking lessons with the riding instructor now, I told her, "I've ridden western my entire life. I'm not that good. I consider myself to have okay balance. Teach me like you're teaching someone to ride for the first time." And that approach has worked great! But honestly, I've never played the "overconfident cowgirl" type of role. My thoughts are, "Okay, I'm on a 1000 lb. animal that could kill me if it wanted to... Any attempts to 'overpower' it are going to be laughable..."
I don't mind criticism either- in fact, I LOVE criticism, as long as it's constructive. Insults and degrogatory behavior makes me angry, because how is that helping? Calling the rider "stupid" isn't solving the problem!
I hope current, or future, riding instructors are reading this.
The best coaches and trainers I've ever, ever encountered were calm, and did not insult their students. Positive reinforcement will work so much better than negative reinforcement! Riding lessons should not be like boot camp!