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post #11 of 31 Old 02-19-2014, 12:27 PM
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She keeps telling me its a trust issue and that I don't have trust in her, but that's not it at all. I trust her, but in the end it's my horse and I feel out of control with what I can and can't do with my horse, her diet, and so on.
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I really do suggest getting a new trainer, and explaining to your current trainer why you decided to leave.

Even if you tried to resolve this issue, based on what you are telling us about her, she won't handle it well and it will cause more stress on an already strained relationship.
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post #12 of 31 Old 02-19-2014, 12:28 PM
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She keeps telling me its a trust issue and that I don't have trust in her, but that's not it at all. I trust her, but in the end it's my horse and I feel out of control with what I can and can't do with my horse, her diet, and so on.
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Have you told her she is not allowed to change anything without your permission?
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Have you told her she is not allowed to change anything without your permission?
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She pretty much already told me I'm not suppose to questions her and if I do it means I don't trust her and threatened me to find a new trainer and hopefully they will fix my confidence. I told her at our last meeting I feel out of control and there's things I do and don't want to do with her, she kept going on about how her clients pay her to make these decisions and I need more trust and if I can't "trust" her to move on.
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I'd pull my horse out of training right then and there. I'd call her up and tell her your taking her up on the threat. It's YOUR money, she should be catering to your needs. Maybe there are people out there who like her to do that, but she knows your not one of them.
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Bahaha I thought the shout out bar was a search bar. I'm such a dork!
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post #17 of 31 Old 02-19-2014, 01:57 PM
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Time to pack your stuff up and leave I think
I don't see this as a trust thing at all - even if you trust someone that cares for your horse they still need to talk things through with you - I would be more inclined to not trust someone who didn't do that because it looks as if they have something to hide
Some pretty underhand things go on even in the top barns
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She pretty much already told me I'm not suppose to question her...
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REALLY?!?! Would you accept this from your mechanic?
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I have to say-I am in total agreement…go search-I will also check with those I know there, altho that is not a ton. Time to take your checkbook (and your horse) elsewhere. This lady has issues.

Do you have any written contract with her? If so, that will dictate notice. But, if you don't-I would be out the door with out it. You are simply taking her up on her threat.

Contacting someone I know just south of you-he does trucking too….and may know someone. Hang in.

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post #20 of 31 Old 02-19-2014, 03:34 PM
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To a point ,find show horse trainers do have a program they try to follow having their horses in training to be looking & performing certain ways. I've found this to an extent but they are open to change things if I see fit. I've been told that I need such & such for blankets{barn & turnout blankets & hoods},farrier & worming usually on set schedule etc.They have set feeding programs but have found mine have fed what I want,but then I supply that. If horse is having performance issues it is discussed & appropriate care is decided upon be it trip to vet ,Chiro,change in training or management routine.They can suggest & usually we are on same page but Ulitmately I have always had last say on what goes on with my horse

If it was their way or the highway well sorry,yes i'd be finding fast road out
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