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post #11 of 20 Old 02-06-2013, 10:41 AM
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I get along with mine great most of the time but I better because I'm my own trainer. I might argue with myself once in a while but I end up winning each time. 😉
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post #12 of 20 Old 02-06-2013, 12:04 PM
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I have been with my coach for 16 years. She has been a Mom to me all 16 of those years. When I had problems at home I lived with her. She has gone to bat for me so many times and gone out of her way to help me. I am very blessed to have her as a coach, a mentor and a friend.

I did move away for 8 of those years. In those years she got me a position at a huge training facility in another province. She was there for me to call and cry when I was at a horse show and things were going bad. Any time I was home to visit I would take lessons from her. She took care of my horse when I was away. She was there for me when I came home with my life in pieces. She was a shoulder to cry on, someone to stand me up and brush the dirt off.

When I am riding though she is business. She will scream at me and demand perfection. Then I jump out of the saddle and she is like my Mom again.

I can truly say I have been blessed to have her on my side. We have had our outs and gone to war with each other blood sweat and tears shed. Then we say our piece, hug and make up lol.

Now I have not always had coaches like this. I have had many coaches over the years who were strictly just that, my coach. There was no personal relationship with them.

The coach/student relationship can be a very funny sort of relationship.
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post #13 of 20 Old 02-06-2013, 12:54 PM
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My trainer is a 65 year old cowboy who doesn't put up with whining and tells up to cowgirl up, so he can be firm, but at the same time he is very understanding..he really built my confidence back up and was patient with me after my mare sent me to the hospital. Before and after lessons we all hangout and talk and he invites us on trailrides, to auctions etc. on the weekends sometimes.
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post #14 of 20 Old 02-06-2013, 01:04 PM
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My trainer is a good friend of mine!!! He calls me just to see how I am doing, not even to ask about my horse. I can go to him with anything.

Although, I think he enjoys the company of my horse more ;D He loooooves Dusty.

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post #15 of 20 Old 02-09-2013, 10:12 AM
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No, the instructor I had the longest was fine but I found out she would talk behind my back saying how bad I was, and how she didn't want to teach me anything new because I was nervous. No kidding I was nervous her horses are tanks that pull, buck, rear and bolt! Plus isn't everyone nervous to learn to jump or after a serious accident?

Looking bad I was stupid for trusting her judgement as much as I did, all the preventable injuries, lame horses, never learned anything new.

After a fun day kind of clinic thing the guest instructor picked at me the whole time, you can't post, your no good at this not once did she say how to fix it. I was just couldn't do anything right (well that's putting it nicely, as she used a few different words). I got off the horse, untacked her, told them I wasn't there to be belitted and I wanted my money back.

Never went back, I still talk to her and we're on good terms but I don't trust her judgement with horses in care, tack choices, in horses period. Too many trips to the ER say, years of ownership don't mean you know whats best. (This doesn't mean I know better, it means I have other people that I trust their opinions a lot more, such as vet, farrier, and more)
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post #16 of 20 Old 02-09-2013, 04:30 PM
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Yes! I love my trainer, we have a great relationship. She is so wonderful. I was SHOCKED that she was only 20 . . . She is just so mature, knowledgeable and kind. Far more so than my former trainer, who was in her 50s!

I can't deal with trainers who scream at me because I have GAD and APD, and her approach is perfect. When I'm riding she gets after me, without ever raising her voice. Several times during jumping lessons (and once during O.O) she has demonstrated exactly how it feels not giving a horse release by holding onto the back of my shirt and making me jump over a cross rail. Very effective!

I am so excited to be taking my new horse to her farm, she and her family give the greatest of care to their animals. She is also a wonderful rider and has Olympic aspirations (George Morris wanted her to ride for him).

My trainer may also become my boxing trainer, haha! She gave me a $100 gift card to a local Russian kickboxing gym, and we are going to start going together. So she really WILL be going to the mat for me!
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post #17 of 20 Old 02-14-2013, 08:48 PM
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Mine would do anything I asked of her without hesitation.

She is truly an incredible person and I consider her one of my good friends.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #18 of 20 Old 02-14-2013, 09:31 PM
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I had the best trainer in the world. When I was younger, the trainer that I had been riding with became almost abusive to me and her horses. Needless to say, my parents and I left after an especially bad incident. I never thought I'd ride again.

Then, about 6 months later, my mom saw an ad in the paper for a barn with trainers. It's there that I met the trainer who practically gave me my horse life back.

She taught me well, and quickly too. I was challenged in ways that I hadn't been before, and I learned to be slightly more confident. It was wonderful not to be yelled at- my trainer treated her horses well.

I bought my first two mares- sister NSH's- from my trainer's sister. My trainer taught me how to train them, and was there for me with any and all questions.

A couple years later, my trainer was diagnosed with breast cancer. Over the next year and a half, she went through multiple surgeries, but the cancer kept coming back. At one point, I was one of the only students that she kept.

And then, the older of my two mares had to be euthanized after a shocking diagnosis of Potomac Horse Fever that was caught too late. Since my horse was alone, my trainer moved her horse to my property to keep my mare company.

My trainer died from cancer that spring. My remaining NSH and I owe her everything.
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post #19 of 20 Old 02-14-2013, 10:49 PM
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My trainer is my best friend. When i'm ridding its a different story haha
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post #20 of 20 Old 02-15-2013, 03:26 PM
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My first instructor was like my second mom. I'm a little ashamed to admit that I was her obvious favorite; she was never as close with her students as she was with me. I got to ride and show her personal horse, I was the only one who spent the night before horse shows, and I was the only one who got Christmas presents from her. But she was really hard on me in the saddle. She saw my potential and she didn't put up with any nonsense. Crying was fine, as long as I kept riding through it. She would yell, scream, lecture, threaten, and cajole until I did what she wanted me to do. Eventually I left her for personal reasons, and when I told her I was going we both cried.

My second instructor was really nice, we were friends but not super close, and I was actually one of her favorites as well. It seems to come along with spending five days a week at the barn, sun up to sun down, in good weather or bad. Like a package deal, haha. Anyway, I left that barn because she stopped teaching for personal reasons, and we parted good friends. I still go out there sometimes to love on her old guys and just talk.

My current instructor is like a second mom to me as well. I have an open invitation to sleep over any time I want to, I practically own one of her horses, and she's always willing to talk to me about non-horsey stuff if I want to. She doesn't push me as hard as my first instructor did, but that's okay. It's what I need right now while I build my confidence back up. I may need to find someone who will actually make me ride once I feel up to it though, and while I'm nervous about telling her, I'm confident that she'll understand.
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