Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Oxfordshire, England
This thread seems to be getting back on track at last.
But I would liken the antagonism that has been displayed as analogous to a religious war. This is a shame. I am not religious, but have a very healthy interest in belief systems of all sorts. After all when it comes down to it most religions belief in the same god, whether it be Allah, Christ, Yaweh etc. All religions also have their good points. I have spent many hours on a flight deck chatting to Muslim colleagues and find their understanding of god quite enlightening.
If only the different religions could get together to understand each other they may find that there are ideas in other religions that actually help them to understand their own better. But that is not what happens. In many instances they would rather kill each other because of perceived insults to their religion by the other, even if the insult took place 100s of years ago. As a result they all loose a chance for greater enlightenment that cooperation could achieve.
This thread suggests a similar strife within NH. Because folks cannot stand PP,CA etc for one reason or another they are not willing to see if there are any nuggets of truth in their teachings and incorporate them in their own knowledge base.
I had hoped that this forum would not be like that. I had hoped that folks would ask constructive questions about different trainers, even if they personally did not like them. For example I went to some lengths to explain the 7 games on a different thread, and those who bothered to read that thread seemed from their replies to come away with a new understanding of the ideas. Even those who had only heard the level 1 understanding of the games and had firmly rejected them.
That is how this forum should work.
When I get to where I have a solid foundation on myself and Filly then I would like to quiz folks on how to do reining, where to get the info. Even to visit with them if possible (airline staff travel has its' benefits ;) ). The problem is that the aggressive nature of this debate (and I have probably been guilty as well) leads me to not want to seek advice from many on here at all. That is not a rational point of view as there is clearly lots of knowledge here, but a gut reaction to strife. Can we see how religious wars start ?
James Roberts has a few rules on his yard. One was "Never say anything negative", and I never heard him ever do so. You could ask questions, but it had to be phrased in positive light. Not "I don't like playing games with my horse, it's stupid. Why on earth do you do it?" but "What are the seven games about and how do they help you ?". The first question will get a defensive answer with little information content, the second will actually get the respondent to think carefully about the answer (maybe even increase their understanding of it) and the questioner will get an understanding of the respondents ideas on the subject. They may not agree with the answer, but even in that disagreement they will gain knowledge.
I hereby pledge to try and post on this forum in this positive vein. Be tolerant to others ideas and try to ask only positive questions of those with whom I do not agree in order to try and understand their point of view more clearly. I also pledge to try and give only positive answers to questions I feel I can contribute to.
I hope others can join me in this and we can progress with more tolerance and understanding.