Im still glowing from todays ride! Since the farrier said to get her right back into work I decided to test the waters and get on Chance today! Sorry if this is all over the place, so many thoughts to write down!
Lets just say my confidence in ridng in general has gone up A LOT since the last time I rode her! I think its because I've been working with other peoples horses that really had some issues and it was where I need to be firm and demand to be listened to, where before I just wanted to be friends with the horses. Now its like.. okay once you behave and listen to me and not be a threat to my safety we can be friends. Now that goes with any horse I ride. I need to be the leader, its what they look for.
I got on her and kinda moseyed around, and started to be like my old self, then my 'training' side kicked in and I was ready to make sure this first ride was going to have a impact. When she started to try stuff I immediatly said no, that's not what I asked, I want this. Her WHOLE attitude changed for teh better. We had a great forward walk and a nice moving trot, instead of her ughh lazy.. I don't want to type gaits. The canter she got a bit testy. She threw a few bucks, but I just asked her to move her butt and to comply with what I wanted. After that she was cantering great in both directions around the whole arena, not even trying to take off!!!
A month ago I would back down, or ask her to stop the second she would speed up on the long side because I didnt want her to take off... but I just rode it and slowed her down when needed, nothing phased me today. I was ready to take her on, and I guess it showed because she didnt try very much after the first few things she pulled.
I know how important the relationship is, but the saftey of myself, and her.. is what needs to come first... the relationship will come naturally. We already have a great bond anyways.
Now that I found what was wrong with ME when riding her, and I've over come a lot of things related with her I think everything will click into place. I think the whole working with other horses for people is what helped me a lot, it was a big confidence booster when people were impressed with what I was doing. :) I never had the confidence to really tell her what was bad, because I was afraid of being thrown. Now that I really DO, I can admit to it and say I wasn't then and it was me who was causing her problems.