Lets just say my confidence in ridng in general has gone up A LOT since the last time I rode her! I think its because I've been working with other peoples horses that really had some issues and it was where I need to be firm and demand to be listened to, where before I just wanted to be friends with the horses. Now its like.. okay once you behave and listen to me and not be a threat to my safety we can be friends. Now that goes with any horse I ride. I need to be the leader, its what they look for.
I got on her and kinda moseyed around, and started to be like my old self, then my 'training' side kicked in and I was ready to make sure this first ride was going to have a impact. When she started to try stuff I immediatly said no, that's not what I asked, I want this. Her WHOLE attitude changed for teh better. We had a great forward walk and a nice moving trot, instead of her ughh lazy.. I don't want to type gaits. The canter she got a bit testy. She threw a few bucks, but I just asked her to move her butt and to comply with what I wanted. After that she was cantering great in both directions around the whole arena, not even trying to take off!!!
A month ago I would back down, or ask her to stop the second she would speed up on the long side because I didnt want her to take off... but I just rode it and slowed her down when needed, nothing phased me today. I was ready to take her on, and I guess it showed because she didnt try very much after the first few things she pulled.
I know how important the relationship is, but the saftey of myself, and her.. is what needs to come first... the relationship will come naturally. We already have a great bond anyways.
Now that I found what was wrong with ME when riding her, and I've over come a lot of things related with her I think everything will click into place. I think the whole working with other horses for people is what helped me a lot, it was a big confidence booster when people were impressed with what I was doing. :) I never had the confidence to really tell her what was bad, because I was afraid of being thrown. Now that I really DO, I can admit to it and say I wasn't then and it was me who was causing her problems.