Acting as an agent, second thoughts now for the well being of the horse - HELP! - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 9 Old 09-20-2012, 01:26 AM Thread Starter
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Acting as an agent, second thoughts now for the well being of the horse - HELP!

So, an acquaintance of mine (not really a friend, but I don't meet a stranger) had mentioned to me that she was looking for a horse. Being estranged from the area for a very long time (I moved back to this area recently after living in another state) and being essentially retired from the "Horse Industry", so I thought lol, I found a horse through a close friend of mine that I thought "could work" per the owners description. Well, I went to go see the horse (who was NOT at all as described, along the lines of being trained) and after contacting the acquaintance to discuss my findings, I decided that he wouldn't work for her. As we all know, that's the magic word... Now she is no longer just interested, she now WANTS him.

This is a somewhat timid (yet willing) horse that I feel needs to be completley restarted from the ground up, slowly (as he has a bit of back atrophy). After spending just a few minutes with him, I felt he wouldn't suit at all for what they want to do. He's tempting me to come out of retirement... Ugh.

So, I have a moral dilema.

I know of the trainer that she uses, the barn where she would board him, and the methods this "trainer" would use. Not fair to a horse that is essentially very green (he is 13 and was described as Dressage broke at one time, yet he didn't know how to lunge when I visted him and lightly worked him).

We are talking a $500 horse here ($200 being my commission). At best he MIGHT turn into a $1500 type of guy.

In all honesty, the home he would be going to isn't any worse than where he currently is, it's just the point. I would rather a horse be a horse than be possibly mentally ruined, which I feel COULD possibly happen here.

It's mainly the trainer, not the "acquaintance". Clients follow their trainer's advice ya know?

So, as I wait now to get a call from her to let me know when the trainer can make it out, I wonder what to do...

Maybe I should talk to the trainer? Maybe I should just let what happens happen? I just don't feel good about it, in the pit of my stomach.

Grrr... Stupid stomach

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post #2 of 9 Old 09-20-2012, 01:31 AM
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well.. if you gave your opinion then I would stay out of it. otherwise you will be the bad person..IDK
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I really can't, unless I just give her the number and wash my hands of it. I sort of got thrown in as both the sellers agent and NOW the buyers agent.

Maybe I am being a little mare-ish and just overreacting. Great first post eh?

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Unless you have some agreement with either seller or buyer regarding training(& pref have it in writing), you're only an 'agent', you have no say whatsoever. So the most you can do in that case is give them your opinion & hope for the best. One reason why I have less than no interest in being a horse dealer.
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post #5 of 9 Old 09-20-2012, 05:33 AM
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Just a thought, but in my area there's about a bazillion horses out there waiting to be purchased or rehomed especially in that price range. If you feel really bad about it, go look around and find something that will suit your client and have them 'just go see it for ****s and grins' ... because some people horse shop like they house shop and 'fall in love' with every one. If you are truly concerned, go find something that is suitable and show that animal to them. Give them some selection and choice.
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You are trying to wear two hats and how much do you have in writing? You have used your vehicle, your gas and who's to say you'd get your fee if there's no signed agreement.
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Originally Posted by BittersweetFarm View Post
I really can't, unless I just give her the number and wash my hands of it. I sort of got thrown in as both the sellers agent and NOW the buyers agent.
If they're determined to buy THIS horse, even after you tried to discourage them, your best bet is to give the buyer the phone number of the seller and walk away. Otherwise, when/if they decide the horse really isn't their best option, you'll take the blame even though you tried to talk them out of the animal. They'll also say you 'ripped them off' because you got paid a commission.

Do you really want to deal with all of that backlash?

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
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post #8 of 9 Old 09-21-2012, 12:23 PM
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I dont really understand why you've got involved with someone who wants you to find them a horse but you aren't happy with where they will keep (whatever) horse they buy because you dont like the trainer there.
It seems to me that you either walk away from the situation completely or you go through with the arrangement and take your fee out of it. If you maintain a good relationship with the person and their boarding situation (re the trainer) goes badly they can come back to you for advice on finding a more suitable yard.
Its not really your place to be telling anyone where they can keep a horse - after all they could arrange to take it somewhere else and still move it back after the sale.
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$200 commission on a $500 horse?!

It's not your problem-buyer beware. At least they have a trainer & it may work out OK.
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