So. Gizmo has started getting nervous when horses are coming towards him faster than a walk. He used to freak when horses came up behind him when he was younger (scooted his butt up underneath himself and bolted, but didn't go very far 'cause I could stop him) but I fixed that after doing it over and over. So, I am not the most confident or aggressive rider. I'm actually working on being a bit more assertive because I'm.. under aggressive lol. There's been a few times in the warm up rings at shows where a horse is trotting or cantering towards us and I'm walking or jogging along not suspecting a thing and then we get close and Gizmo slams on the brakes and swerves away.
Lately, this has been happening more and more often. I anticipate that he's going to get scared so I tense up and then he feels me and then stop and swerve. We were getting a little bit better during fair two weeks ago but then he did the stop and swerve when a horse started acting up behind us and I fell and landed on my tailbone. Couldn't ride the next two days. I was really nervous after that and I rode him three days later (trainer rode him the day I fell, his daughter did the next day, and then my trainer rode him again before I rode on the third day). I got on him, and I was nervous but we did all right. There were other horses around but I was really careful to just stay away from them.
So now tomorrow will be my first show since falling off and I'm nervous about it. I know a lot of it is my fault because when I get scared, he does too. I just know I'm going to be freaking out tomorrow trying to warm up and I won't really be focusing on working him and more on watching what other people are doing and trying to stay out of the way. >.< Any tips on what I can do to try to stay calm and get him to realize that the other horses aren't actually coming at him to hurt him, they're just passing close?