Hi there, I have a SB x QH gelding who can be extremely aggressive mainly in the paddock. Natural horsemanship people have told me he is very arrogant and I need to act more dominant around him, and the more dominant I've been acting, the more aggressive he becomes. He certainly does not like being challenged. He also pushes around my two older mares and bites them a lot, he is definitely the dominant one there so it's in his personality. He is lovely when I ride him, but has always been a biter when he's not in a good mood, but never a kicker. I have looked all over the internet for things to help me but none of the horses in videos seem to be as persistent as mine at being dominant, or the people are just more dominant perhaps! :) when I pat my horse, put his rug on or brush him he always puts his head around to bite me, or just bites my foot on the ground. Even if I pushed his head away a thousand times he would still do it. I have had his saddle fitted more than once and his back isn't sore (I hope, can only go off what I've been told).
But the main problem is that when I'm in the paddock with him, just patting or scratching him, if he turns around to nip me I push him away and chase after him, making him back up or run in circles around me until he stops and faces me, licking and chewing. Often at this point he is listening to me well, and will follow me around or move his hind end away from me if I chase it. But sometimes, when he stops and listens, I go up to him after a minute and he will have another sneaky bite, so I start the whole process again, but this is when he becomes aggressive (or he may be aggressive the first time I chase or push him away). He puts his head right up in the air with his mouth hanging open ready to bite, and if I walk a step closer to push him away he will lunge at me and take a chunk out of my arm (as he nearly did today! Didn't lose any flesh though, a little bit of blood haha). This happens even when I'm standing there waving my arms at him and stomping my feet trying to get him to move back without having to touch him - he seems to become even more irritated by it and just won't give in and move - just lunges at me instead. The other day he even kept swinging his back end round at me and throwing it up in the air, threatening to kick me, but he never kicks! I've been watching videos on youtube and at this point, when the horse is standing with its head up high ready to attack, the person pushes the horse away and that fixes the problem; the horse leaves them alone and the person gains some respect. But I can't even touch him without him attacking. If I pick up a stick or rope from the ground he listens to me slightly better and his aggression lessens, although still with his ears back, but I know his is just respecting the rope and not me. If I went through this process every single day, making him respect me with the rope, he would just be exactly the same the next day. I feel as if I need to win his "fight" for dominance without a rope at the point when he has his head up and ears back ready to attack, to be able to gain his full respect. But it is scary and quite dangerous! I wish I was brave enough to keep waving my arms at him or even get closer and push him away but I know that I will just get hurt.
I would be more than grateful for any help or ideas, because I am always trying to act like an alpha mare and push him out of my way if I'm walking past and have worked on getting respect when I lead him etc., but I feel as though this is pointless when he still disrespects me enough to want to fight me (how he acts when he is at his worst looks to me what horses do when they fight each other for dominance). We would have such a better relationship if he got over his need for power! Again, thanks so much for reading and hopefully you can give me some ideas!