You need to find a way to relax and bring your fustration levels back down. You need to break the cycle of the fustration becoming anger which becomes agression.
I used to get so fustrated with Alli because I just didn't seem to be getting anywhere with her. I never hit her, even at the hight of anger I could never do something like hit her with a whip needlessly, I would just keep asking the question 'louder and louder' as if it would help. Obviously getting angry with her wasn't helping so I just bring her to a halt, stop doing anything at all, just sit there, and breathe for 5 seconds or so. I think to myself she is a young horse and is simply confused or unable to to what Im asking. I ask myself 'is there a better way to explain this to her?' There probably is! Also the pause allows the horse to relax as they will be worked up too. After pausing do something the horse can do before asking the new questions.
Being on your period NEVER means it is ok to hit your horse repeatedly with a whip. And its not ok to blame it soely on hormones either- a guy wouldn't be able to say 'oh i hit that horse because my testosterone levels are really high after a hard work out in the gym.' I'm not trying to say you are a sharp tmepered person all the time here, just saying hormones arent a sole excuse for getting engry. Imho if you can't find a way to control yourself at your time of the month, you shouldn't be carrying a whip, use spurs, use a potentially very damaging bit etc because without a good coping technique emotions can get too high and end up disasterous for your horse's training and confidence.
We lose ourselves in the things we love, we find ourselves there too ~Kristen Martz
Last edited by OwnedByAlli; 08-14-2012 at 04:55 PM.