Meds may be a great place to start. During that time, your hormones go all out of whack - having something to keep them in check can be a life-saver.
I get overly emotional sometimes; usually when I'm stressed or already in a bad mood. HOWEVER by realizing when it's time to have an easy ride because I'm in a bad mood, I avoid doing anything I may regret. My horse gets worked 5 days a week. I can't take a week off every month; instead I find coping techniques (Erm - rather, I would if I had to worry about cycling, right now I don't and this only have to cope with "bad days") or settling with easy rides isn't best bet.
If you get so emotional you cannot control yourself or behave well around your horse, then you either need to seek help or avoid being around your horse at that time. Catching him and beating him repeatedly is - well, quite frankly - almost abusive, dare I say it. Posted via Mobile Device
If im stressed or about to get mad at my horse I just bring her down to a walk and walk on a loose rein for a few minutes. During this time I think about what I could do differently to change how my horse is going. It always works to take a step back and calm down if you are feeling out of control.
If you think you are about to hit your horse when they don't deserve it or hit them excessively, I would drop the crop on the ground or not ride with it in the first place.
I have PMDD too and your doctor will be able to diagnose it and get you on the right pill. Some pills make it even worse because of the hormonal cycling they do. I have had to switch pills in the past because it's just finding one that is right for you.
I hurt terribly physically and become short tempered (because I'm not feeling well) when I am on my period every month, and for a long time I would just drug myself on midol and go out to work the horses anyways, thinking it would work out. My mare is a lot like how your gelding sounds though- extremely sensative to your emotional conditions- and I ALWAYS ended up having absolutely no fun and making my mare very upset and jittery. She takes her confidence from me in situations and expects me as a leader to be capable of control the situation calmly and efficiently, no matter what is happening. I have to be able to realize when she is incapable of and needed to be taught something, and I need to realize when she's actually just being a horse and evading work. If I cannot do this and I am only reacting without thinking about her emotional state and mind, then I need to step back and stay away from her until I have cooled off, returned to a calm state of mind, and can work again as her calm and collected leader. I suggest that you do the same.
If you feel like you absolutely must be around your horse during your period, I would suggest a quiet hack on the trails or a bit of long and low work over poles at a walk and trot. Have a grooming session, spend some quality time with him. Don't do anything that you would normally have problems with even when feeling good- as it will never work out. You might even talk to a friend or even staff if you're at a boarding facility who will be near you while you're working, and ask them to be your accountibility partner. Simply as them to remove you from the situation or remind you to be patient if they feel like you are being unfair to your horse.
Do not school on days you're feeling bad. Just go for a ride if you must, take it easy, correct only mean behavior but don't try to introduce something new or school or try to fix anything. Posted via Mobile Device
If there's a chip on my shoulder, I don't work my horse on anything fancy, such as working on his rate and git-up... I've never heard of anyone repeatedly beating their horse because of "hormones." I would also be the one not to seek a doctor because, over time, your body may become resilient to the medications and they stop working. Can someone say repeat problem?
On days where I am feeling pretty junky I just groom or do the simple things. Leisure on a trail ride... Clean tack, repair things around the barn, and do "basic" exercises (bend, flex, walk/trot exercises).
Otherwise, you need to exercise your self-control. Realize when you're about to go 'overboard' and take a break. Losing your temper does no good for you or your horse... neither does beating it. And your period certainly isn't an escape goat, especially since you swung that crop more than once.
You need to find a way to relax and bring your fustration levels back down. You need to break the cycle of the fustration becoming anger which becomes agression.
I used to get so fustrated with Alli because I just didn't seem to be getting anywhere with her. I never hit her, even at the hight of anger I could never do something like hit her with a whip needlessly, I would just keep asking the question 'louder and louder' as if it would help. Obviously getting angry with her wasn't helping so I just bring her to a halt, stop doing anything at all, just sit there, and breathe for 5 seconds or so. I think to myself she is a young horse and is simply confused or unable to to what Im asking. I ask myself 'is there a better way to explain this to her?' There probably is! Also the pause allows the horse to relax as they will be worked up too. After pausing do something the horse can do before asking the new questions.
Being on your period NEVER means it is ok to hit your horse repeatedly with a whip. And its not ok to blame it soely on hormones either- a guy wouldn't be able to say 'oh I hit that horse because my testosterone levels are really high after a hard work out in the gym.' I'm not trying to say you are a sharp tmepered person all the time here, just saying hormones arent a sole excuse for getting engry. Imho if you can't find a way to control yourself at your time of the month, you shouldn't be carrying a whip, use spurs, use a potentially very damaging bit etc because without a good coping technique emotions can get too high and end up disasterous for your horse's training and confidence.