I have a friend... I really do! Just one... anyway... her daughter has a horse that is QH trained for show. She shows him in the AQHA shows. The teenager that owned the horse before her used a wire bit for training and showed english in a port bit w/ a chain. (it is a legal english bit - I don't know the name). Anway, she has very soft hands however w/ that harsh a bit any tug on the reigns will send the horses head sky high. SO... my question is... what is a milder bit that will get the same type of results?