Okay so my moms 3 year old is hyper and she lounged him a little and then we rode but she still seemed tense and had the reins pretty tight. And I kept asking her "you scared? Or something?" but she said she wasnt, I told her that is my horse bucks (hes very hard to control and if he wants to get out of soemthing he bucks...) and takes off and I fall to get off safely then check on me and then worry about my horse (we were close to home) and id do the same, so she said she was scared about what would happen but I wanted to have a plan just in case something happend. Nothing did but she kept holding him tight, so I kept telling her relaxed. So when we got back I rode him around a bit and we cantered in the yard nad had fun, but he kept trying to steer off and wouldnt let me his head. He's in a snaffle and I would like to get him something a little bit harsher for more control for my mom, he's still young and she got bucked off a few years back.
What a good bit to move up too? And to get my mom to relax? She's seen me ride him many times and he's never really bucked, or reared.