sounds like a challenge
Hello from Seattle,
You have a lot of trouble to deal with. That's a shame because at your age you shouldn't have quite that much on your plate to deal with. I have some thoughts on the matter, but you are young and if you don't have someone there helping you get some respect from this fellow, it might be best to look for a nicer horse.
The very first thing that pops out is that you cannot let him bit you. Ever. So, you must not allow him to come up and nuzzle you in the face, at least until there is a big change in his overall attitude. Forget all the huggy, lovey stuff. No hand feeding now, either, ok?
When he comes up to you, you tell him when to stop, and it's when he is a good 2 meters from you. You firmly tell him with voice and raised hand and even can stamp your feet and say, "Whoa!", telling him he cannot approach you that close. YOU will approach him when he has stopped. YOU enter his space, not him into yours. Don't let him nuzzle you. IF he does, quickly and sharply tap him with two finger (use your index and middle finger together) , and tap him sharply. This tells him to stay out of your space, the boundary that YOU set. If you need to, tap him on his cheek or muzzle. It will NOT cause headshyness, and once he feels this annoying tap and learns what it means, all you will have to do is raise your hand with those fingers ready to tap and he will back off.
He may act surprised and move off in a huff. Don't worry, don't apologize and don't go all mushy on him . He is in school now and no messing about.
When you go out into the field and he is dragging you all over the place, one thing you can do , if you can catch him before he gets turned away from you is to move his feet around. I know this sounds vague. You back him up, you ask him to circle around you, you keep him busy.
You can even back him through the gate so that when you are there and need to close it, he is still facing you instead of outward into the tempting field.
But for now, try at least setting distances. Don't let him walk into you or up onto you too close, and don't let him nuzzle your face.
YOu have to be firmer to be kind to him. Be his leader, not his lover.
I think this sounds like a lot to ask of a 13 year old. Take what you can and see what happens. I hope you can find someone there to help you.
Last edited by tinyliny; 10-29-2010 at 11:35 PM.