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post #1 of 7 Old 05-12-2011, 09:49 PM Thread Starter
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Question Breaking Up A Relationship

I recently 'leveled up' in my riding lessons, so my instructor has assigned me to a new lesson horse. His name is Amigo, and for the most part, is very responsive. Except for one thing. He has a girlfriend, and whenever I take Amigo out of the corral, she whinnies and neighs and all around makes a fuss, distracting him, and making both of us lose focus. He's a gelding, for crying out loud! Anyway, what can I do to break them up, at least enough that he'll focus on me when we're in the arena, not on his girlfriend?
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post #2 of 7 Old 05-12-2011, 10:20 PM
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Is he whinnying as well?

You want to be able to get far enough away that you can't hear the mare whinnying.
Or maybe do some ground work with him first so that he is constrating on you.
My horse was like this and I just rode through it, he didn't whinny though he just got frustrated that he was working and not his gf.
He now doesn't really seem to care
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Unfortunatly, he has been whinnying and even 'hitting on' another gelding in my class who somewhat resembles his GF (?). Sadly, the arena we work in isn't terribly far from the corral, so that we cant get as far away as Id like to. My instuctor had me hack him out for a while before the lesson began, but it didn't seem to help. I really have no idea what to do :/
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Work his tail off on the ground for a while and get him to where he is actually paying attention to you (looking you in the eye, giving you his ears, etc.).

I think we often forget we have to, in a way, 'earn the right' to a horse's focus...if we don't actually work for it, how do we expect him to give it? So make him work hard for you for a few lessons...get to the barn early, and take him out, and ask your instructor if she has some groundwork exercises you can work on with him to establish respect and trust. I think you will see a drastic difference if you strive to gain his focus, rather than trying to ignore the fact that he is ignoring you and being a punk about wanting to be with his lady friend.

When you do get on, if you have to, work circles, figure eights, etc...straight lines are not usually conducive for showing a horse you are serious about wanting his have to move his feet; backwards, fowards, left and right.

Good luck.

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Seeing is it's not your horse, there isn't anything you can do outside of your lessons to teach them to be less dependent on one another.

The best you can do is ignore the whinnying, unless he begins to show behaviour more dangerous than just that. If he does get dangerous, ask your instructor to switch you to a different horse so that you can be comfortable in your lessons.

Something tells me that your instructor thinks you are capable of handling this issue, now that you have "levelled up".
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Mom, excellent post .

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post #7 of 7 Old 05-12-2011, 11:04 PM Thread Starter
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I'll see if I can get my instuctor to let me come early next class. Hopefully some hard work will get his attention. As far as I know, he's been a pasture ornament for the last few months, which might also be a contributing factor towards his attitude.

mom2pride: I think you are right about the whole earned-not-given-respect idea. So far we haven't had loads of time to work on that, but hopefully in a little while we'll get there.

Carleen: I'll keep a good eye on his behaviors, because I really dont want to end up with a bigger, more expensive issue than the one ive got already. (i.e. a hospital visit). I am glad my instructor thinks im able enough to handle Amigo, so hopefully I wont prove her judgement wrong.

I'll update after my next lesson, to let you know if this works.
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