So today I had a lesson with my instructor for the first time...she owns the stable im stabling at as well and specializes in eventing. Pretty much all the horses that board there are eventers except for me... a dressager.
Anyways the lesson was much less to be desired. She had me shorten my reins to where I had my shoulders haunched over Pandoras neck. My arms were literally almost straight and I fell like I was going to fall ontop of her. She actually tied the reins in a knot so I literally had to put my hands very high. She pointed out some nasty habits I do have which was good such as looking down and dropping my hands below the whithers.But she wanted my reins very tight all the time to maintain contact. And I find with Pandora I do better if she has less contact and a stable seat. I find all of her students have very short reins and are almost falling over their horses necks. I wanted to work on my dressage seat with bent arms and a laid back seat. She also got me to half halt with both hands at the same time to stop her (Pandora) from being as strong.
Ontop of this, she demanded $35 for what was supposed to be an hour lesson which was 30 mins.
I don't know what to think of this lesson, I do believe in contact at all times but not haunching over the horses neck. I told her that I felt like I was was going to fall and she told me I looked fine :S.
I honestly don't know what to think of this lesson. If I do bring in another instructor that will definetly make bad blood which I definetly don't want that. Unfortunatly, I really like her stable because Pandora gets the turnout and pasture that I wanted so she can have a gallop. I've called the city flat for a descent stable and she was literally the only one with descent space and grass.
I feel like I should buy a ton of books and just do it myself but I don't know if im experienced enough to do that. It's very hard to point out flaws.
Ugh what do you guys think? This is stressing me out.