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post #1 of 8 Old 02-02-2011, 05:29 PM Thread Starter
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Buddy Sour Issues. Advice Needed!!

So my Tb Rocket is pretty buddy sour with my nieces pony spice, when they ride her he will run back and forth along the fence line the entire time and the ring is right next to his field. so most the time I end up getting his halter and holding him. BUt other than that is wasn't that bad

But The other day I had a space cadet moment and left the gate unlocked between my horses field and the other boarder field(who has four horses). So they figured it out and got in. Luckily my brother went down they shortly after I left. But they were chasing spice around(she's the only mare) and Rocket was trying to protect her They were both soaked with sweat. So they got it all sorted out and now Rocket will not leave her side.

They eat in their stalls but can see each other cause there are slots in the boards between them. when spice is done eating she goes outside to eat her hay and Rocket will not finishing eating unless I put his food in a bucket outside where he can see her.
I think he's just worried about her because of them getting in with the other horses and they were pretty aggresive towards her but its getting a little ridiculous. Anytime she's out of sight he's freaks.

Any suggestions?!? I don't want to feed to this problem I would like to fix it..
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post #2 of 8 Old 02-02-2011, 09:17 PM Thread Starter
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post #3 of 8 Old 02-02-2011, 09:53 PM
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Buddy sour is not a fun problem to deal with. Hopefully the people at your barn are understanding because it can be a noisy problem to fix.
A lot of how you want to solve the problem depends on your individual situation. For instance, you can "wean" the horses from each other completely, but you might rather keep them pastured together.

It sounds like they are together pretty much 24/7, and even when you ride the pony it sounds like the two of them can still see each other.
I like my mares to be pastured together and I like them stalled near each other for my convenience. However, this means they get clingy from time to time.
For me, I make sure I separate them regularly. I take one into the barn to work with and ride while leaving the other out in the pasture. At first when I did this they screamed for each other. The one outside would run up and down the fence and the one I was working with would prance around some. I completely ignored the behavior and did not make any allowances for it. I rode them and did whatever I wanted as if they were behaving normally. Eventually they accepted the fact that they have to be separated sometimes. Now they are calm about it. The other boarders were nice about listening to all the racket while my horses were getting used to being apart.
It can help to move one of them down the barn so they are not stalled near each other. At first if you can't ride one away from the other, just lead one far away and make them stay apart for awhile until the horses get used to it. Bring a different horse along to ride with so your horse gets used to others. If you ride the two that are buddy sour together, practice having one stand while the other rides a distance away and then comes back.
Whatever you do, don't give into the temptation to not separate the horses because it is easier. You will be sorry when a situation comes up where they have to be apart.
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post #4 of 8 Old 02-03-2011, 06:37 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks.. I don't have a field to separate them except with the other boarder and she has four horses and I really don't want him buddy sour with four horses one is enough.

I will try just ignoring him while my nieces are riding her and see if that helps. Most the time none of the other boarders are there when I am so noone will care about the noise.

I'm worried because I'm going to start trailering him to another barn for lessons, but I think he'll be fine at a totally different barn. We'll see.

It's funny because she could care less about him.
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post #5 of 8 Old 02-03-2011, 06:48 AM
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I've just had a similar problem my gelding acts like he is about to die because my mare is either too far away or he cant see her. So I've had to separate them and I think he's just starting to figure out the world isn't gonna end because she not beside him.

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post #6 of 8 Old 02-03-2011, 06:48 AM
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Work him where he wants to be let him rest where he doesn't want to be!
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post #7 of 8 Old 02-03-2011, 06:51 AM
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There are many threads on this very issue. Go to the training section and you should get more information. Good luck
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post #8 of 8 Old 02-04-2011, 12:29 AM
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My advice is the same. Being a little hard hearted now will make for better times later. One of our boarders is a total pain in the butt if her buddy horse is within shouting distance and she can't get to him, but once she can't hear him anymore, she is back to her normal self. But the minute they are back together again, they are like two creatures that share the same brain. The only you can do is get them used to working apart, though the process is painful to watch and hear. Once they bond so tight, unless you can permenatly seperate them, all you can do is to make them understand that the sky won't fall if they get away from each other.

This can take months for them to learn, but I don't know another way. Stay strong!
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