This young woman speaks so much sense - forthright but not rude or insulting. Certain so called trainers out there blame (mostly) women for spoiling horses but quite often they have ended up with a horse already spoilt by someone else who has sweet talked them into buying it or they have overestimated their abilities or underestimated just HOW bad a real problem horse can be (check out Buck Brannaman when he came badly unstuck) Maybe the colts problems were caused by the woman who handled it but what went wrong was his fault because he made some fundamental mistakes himself. Unless you are really tough and/or prepared to lose money and get rid of a problem in any way you can off-load it then when you buy a horse try to foolow some rules
Best if you can buy one you already know to be good at what you want to do and being sold or recommended by someone you trust 100%
Take an experienced person with you who's opinion you know to be wise and listen to what they say.
See the horse ridden by the owner or their representative first and NEVER assume you are better than they are if the horse plays up. Why buy a problem? I have walked away from some horses without even trying them, no shame in it
If the horse feels challenging enough to give you concern when you when ride it walk away. A friend of mine convinced herself she could sort out the horse that bolted with her, ran into a fence that it then tried to jump and tipped over it. It was far too big, green and srtrong for her but she still bought it and ended up with a broken pelvic bone soon after, the horse was shot because it also damaged its back beyond repair
If you are only offered to try it in a menage and you want to trail ride then insist on being taken out on it, if its supposed to be a competition horse then I'd want to see how it performs and behaves at a showground, if you have to ride in traffic then see it ridden on the road in traffic, if you will have to ride alone then the same applies. If you're going to keep it in a reasonable sized paddock then ask to see it being caught in one, saddle it up, groom it, lead it, feed it. If its genuine then the seller won't object. I've had children spend whole weekends on my yard in the past so they can know if the pony I was selling was right for them.
Some good dealers will offer a no questions asked exchange (subject of course to you not having injured the animal) - never be ashamed to send anything back if you have this agreement
No matter how much or little you pay once its yours its yours and you might not be so good at hiding a problem or be hard faced enough to do it.
I always have an independant veterinarian check a horse before I buy it and do a blood test for dope or pain medication. In Britain auction yards have them on site as a matter of course so if you are brave enough to buy that way you don't go home with a horse that maybe has a serious heart condition and if you do take Mr Quiet and placid home and he suddenly turns overnight into a crazy monster or the sound trotter actually has a limp you have a sound legal case to get your money back, something that the US should consider as well as all auction horse having legally binding warranties - they have to do what it says on the label
Ask for help from someone who really sounds as if they care - not someone who is going to just ridicule or bad mouth you because you made a mistake. Sometimes a good trainer can sort out a problem really fast and then work with you and the horse until you can cope, its worth the cost. Parents - get your kids involved in a pony club or 4H group, get them for regular lessons on the pony
And remember - the best horsemen/women are the ones who know they never stop learning