Originally Posted by furandfeather
having heard about the wonderful nature of fjord horses I decided to buy one but my 6yr old mare is proving to be an exception ,she was imported in 2009 in foal and ended up on a dealers yard who sold her to a young girl as a novice ride , which she is ,but was to strong for the girl to handle on the ground so was put up for sale ,and I bought her and adore her ,i have taken her right back to basics after being chased , lunged and kicked at ,she seems to be so defensive all the time any ideas on how I can convince her I am not out to hurt her .i am not new to horses having ridden bred and trained for over 20yrs but this fjord is proving a tough nut to crack.
Going back to basics is exactly what I would do - back to square one, establishing and defining your personal space first and foremost. This mare sounds like she has zero respect for you, and the only way to remedy that is to establish yourself as the "dominant horse" in her herd. Adopt a "take no crap" attitude with her, and keep things black and white. Start with making sure that she respects your space, and then move on to establishing respect for your requests that she move her feet forwards, backwards, left and right.
It doesn't sound like you need to convince her that you won't hurt her - you need to convince her that you're worth respecting.