Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Greenville area / SC
If your mare is in season, it's a possibility that the "gelding" next to you is a problem. What I do with a horse that is a problem is to put the horse in a smaller paddock or a round pen to work with him. I always have a halter and lead (I use a rope halter combo) on my shoulder so that the horse comes to see the halter and me as a single unit.
I'll use the chase and retreat method or the "sit in a chair with a book" method, depending on the horse. I will whistle to the horse as I approach him so that he becomes accustomed to the whistle as a good thing. What I do when he finally allows me to touch him is to pet him, maybe give him a treat, then just walk away. I'll do this several times in a session. In the next session, I'll put the halter on him, stroke him, lead him a little, then release him.
I keep this up until the horse will come to me when I whistle. (Incidentally, I use the same whistle when it's feeding time). This may take several days or a week but with time and patience, it will happen.
One of my horses, Charlie, is a 20 year old Arabian who came to me with major trust issues. It took all autumn and much of the winter but he came around. He now comes to me just on sight.
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