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post #11 of 12 Old 04-12-2013, 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Palomine View Post
Coming at this from training background? I think much of this "bond" is just a method used to make money for clinicians.

You do not have to "click" with a horse to have it well trained, well behaved, or have it do its best.

And furthermore? This is not how horses think. They do not have to click with horse to decide to follow the lead mare/horse. In fact? They may passionately HATE the lead mare/horse, and will still follow it anywhere.

The whole concept of only by clicking with a horse can you have a safe horse or trusting horse is fairy dust.

There are too many people who make their living riding many many horses in a day, and in some barns, horses come and go weekly. That trainer does not have time to click with each one, nor are they worried about human/horse relationship, other than horse is doing what it is supposed to do.

Much of this nonsense? Comes from people who do not make their living with horses. Unless of course they are clinicians who make a living out of promoting this foolishness.
TY,TY,TY!! I apologize in advance, because this is going to offend some, but THIS, along with "forever homes", and "rescues" that charge $1200 to "adopt" the horse to you just raise my blood pressure!!!!!

Ok, the question.... I have clicked with some horses immediately. Just like you click with some people immediately when you meet them. I knew the horse in my avatar was coming home with me the second I met her.

Some horses I have looked at 2-3 times before the purchase. But, because I do NOT believe horses are companion animals, I do not believe they need a bond.

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post #12 of 12 Old 04-12-2013, 10:26 AM
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Its like any relationship, sometimes its "love at first sight", sometimes it takes months or years to build a partnership, and sometimes two personalities just don't get along. If we are talking about the magical black stallion bond(pile of rubbish), then I whole heartedly agree with this:

The whole concept of only by clicking with a horse can you have a safe horse or trusting horse is fairy dust.
you don't magically "connect" with a horse and suddenly they love and want to protect you, no more than "love at first sight" will instantly give you a loving and fulfilling marriage for the next 50 years. All relationships are a lot of work. ALL.

that said, I have had a few horses I really get along with, I have ridden and worked with dozens and they all did what I asked. There was no "muffy doesn't like me, so she bucks me off". they were expected to work and they did it. sometimes we genuinely disliked each other, but they still had to follow the same rules.

Of the horses I have felt the closest connection to, Pickles was instant. she chose me, out in the pasture. Instantly we got along. shortly there after she had a miserable stage where I questioned my decision, but in the end the first impressions were correct(after a lot of WORK, seeing a pattern here?)
my first "love" was sparky. I loved him the day he was born. we got along great from day 1. he died as a yearling, so I really cant say how he was under saddle, but we were great together.
then there is Pretzl. NOT love at first sight. I thought she was the ugliest Arabian I'd ever seen in my life, but she was cheap, sound, and not crazy. It was months later, whipping through a narrow trail at a gallop, that I realized we made a great team. she is not lovey-dovey, and never will be, but we have come to an agreement and enjoy each others company.

some horses I've known since birth and it has taken years to really "connect". One of my biggest pet peeves is the buyer that has seen 20 horses, comes out to see one I have for sale, and tells me, "sorry, but we just don't click", despite being perfectly suited, after 10 minutes of riding. I honestly believe that the majority of great horse/human partnerships take a ton of work, and even in the unusual circumstance of having that instant "connection", you still have to work at it every day.
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