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post #1 of 15 Old 05-05-2009, 12:06 PM Thread Starter
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Clicked with the horse - what is it?

I've seen lots of people on forum said "We clicked right away", or "We didn't click", or "We have (have not) bond". So what everyone mean by that?

I want to hear the stories.
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post #2 of 15 Old 05-05-2009, 12:22 PM
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I'm going to give the experiences I've had with two horses.

Cope - Cope was my first horse. I was 10 when I got him. He was about 2 or 3 (he was a surprise...and knowing what I know now...this won't be the way I'll go with my own kids). We have a special bond, but it was really something that came with time. Cope is my comfort zone. When I need a confidence boost...I've got Cope. I wouldn't say we just clicked. We just learned each other and got comfortable.

Flag - Flag was a little mare that my dad and I rescued. My dad bought her for me for $200. She was green broke, but didn't really know much. She didn't know much about a year later when I gave her to a friend to use as a trade for an older pony for their nephew... She was honest though. She was very stubborn, but she was a very hard worker. We did not click. She was a nice horse, but there was something there like a wall between us. I never could trust her, and I don't think she ever trusted me. It wasn't the same as with Cope...I don't think she ever would have trusted me and I don't think she could have ever become my comfort zone like Cope.

I haven't really had a horse that I've just clicked with instantly, but from my experience with Flag I think it could happen. I think when a horse and rider just click it's a meeting of with people. Sometimes you meet someone and you only way I know how to put it is you just don't click.

I think when a horse and rider don't click they can be an okay team, but I don't think either one of them will really meet their full potential with each other. At the same time the same rider could have another horse...and they could really click. They just work well together. They thrive together.

That's my take on it.

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post #3 of 15 Old 05-05-2009, 01:00 PM
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Some horses, just like people, have a chemistry that works with yours. Have you ever met someone and after 5 min, feel like you've known them your whole life? That is what "clicking" feels like to me.

Some times it takes a little time for that feeling, sometimes it never happens, and sometimes it is very subtle; but when your horse and you seem to work as a single unit and greets you like a best friend, that is what a bond is to me.
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post #4 of 15 Old 05-05-2009, 06:34 PM
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I grew up with them. Some you just feel an instant connection... others it can take a while, or may never happen OR it can be an instant dis-connection.
my big (now)11 year old mare - fell in love at first sight. she will listen only to me under saddle, she picks on my hubby, and her personality is like mine can be on gnarly days.
2) my 7 year old bay - plain girl, mild personality. Took a while. best riding horse I've ever had, and that 's why I got her, but we took time to click. I have been close to her since she was 4, (got her at 3) but the moment I knew for sure she was really connected to me was when I lost a pregnancy. She knew something was wrong, and my 1st time back to the barn after I lost the baby she wouldn't touch her food (and she is Ms.Chowhound) until I went into her stall & she gave me the biggest horsey hug ever.
Sometimes, it sneaks up on you. Othertimes, it's like getting hit with lightning. It's a lot like falling in true love. You just know when it happens, and it doesn't always happen. I have had horses I never really felt truly connected with as well..

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post #5 of 15 Old 05-05-2009, 09:15 PM
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my first horse, my TB and I took a while to connect, took about a year, he was just standoff ish no matter what I did! he would run from me in the pasture when I wanted to catch him to ride (which he STILL does sometimes, even after 3 1/2 years!, that snot.) not sure why but we just didn't.
The Clyde mare I JUST bought on the other hand, I went out and test rode her about 2 weeks ago and my mom and brother came as well, since I am what they call the "horse expert of the family" I've always rode horses we went to test ride first, well Evie gave me a hard time, she didn't want to walk or trot, she didnt want to walk in a straight line, she was obviously testing me, eventually she gave up and listened to me so I got off and got my mom on her, and walked away, she IMMEDIATELY started to follow me, thats not something that usually happens right away with horses, I felt like I had been riding her for years, just like "iridehorses" said
when it happens, you will know, its an intense feeling of happiness and trust. just don't rush it, it will happen when you least expect it probably.
I cant explain the feeling really, its amazing.

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post #6 of 15 Old 05-06-2009, 07:39 AM Thread Starter
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Great stories!
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post #7 of 15 Old 05-06-2009, 08:55 PM
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Loki -- He is simply 'my horse'. When I first saw him in December 2005, I fell in love. A few weeks later, I was riding him and it was amazing. We gaited, cantered, everything. I was 13 at the time, with a year in a half of lessons under my belt, I got on the horse that was difficult to ride and just rode.
He really only listens to me ^^ He'll run over my dad (big, scary, construction dad), but I come over and say 'Back it up!' he backs it up and doesn't dare trying anything silly. xD

Sammy -- Sam clicked in the dead of night, in a pasture full of goats, in the middle of no were. He was spooky and nervous, away from the herd with a flashlight shining on him, but I took him. I just...felt that he would be a good horse. That he would be worth it. And he is. We actually went riding on the 4th for the first, real time :)

Red Man -- We haven't really 'clicked', but we have an understanding and respect each other. It is simply incredible how he has progressed from the 'untouchable, useless gelding' to the shy boy who I can catch, lead, tie, and -kinda- lunge.

The way I see it, some horses are work mates, others are life mates. It's something you have to feel to believe.

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post #8 of 15 Old 05-06-2009, 09:15 PM
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well with my boys i got lightning first
Lightning - i took lessons on him when i was 13 we didnt click right away infact i didnt like riding him very much cause he was an old hunt horse that hadnt been use for years but when i went out after my first lesson on him he was standing at the gate waiting for me and we just bonded from there
"it all clicked "

Rebel - i wanted him from the day he was born cute little dun baby and then i ended up at that barn told the barn owner if they ever sold him i wanted him and later i bought him for the first 2 1/2 years we butted heads and never got it to click by year 3 i was ready to give in cause i didnt think it would click i held in there now at 8 every think has clicked and hes my dream horse

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post #9 of 15 Old 05-06-2009, 09:34 PM
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Though I don't have my own horse yet, there are lots of horses I've clicked with.

Rupert.. was always just a lesson horse, did what you wanted, didn't pay much attention, didn't really care. But when I rode him, he focused. He fallowed me everywhere, did whatever I wanted, tried his best for me, and listened to me so well.. I think I fell in love when we were cantering 2'0 verticles and no matter how horrible I did, he jumped it over and over and over, eager every time. He's amazing. <3
Rodger.. ridden twice, have a bond with him. The first time I rode him he was really good, but I was nervous and resisting too much. He was green/still is green, and I was too nervous to do anything right for him. He stuck it out, though. I agreed to school him some other time but had no intention of riding him again. So, I come to the barn on Wednesday and they told me to ride him. I got on and he was REALLY skiddish the whole time, bolting and spooking but for some reason, I knew he was trying for me. When I cantered him, he galloped off bucking and stuff, and I fall off ALL the time, so I was prepared to fall.. but I didn't. I stayed on the whole time and then it kinda fell into place, and I realized I COULD ride that pony. That eventually, I could train him to do what I wanted and he WOULD stop messing around with me eventually, because I could ride him. Now I'm dying to train him, though cantering him is still veerrry scary.
Milo.. I kinda just fell in love with. He was bad but I loved the idea that I was training another horse, after my last one was sold. I was just so happy to say, "Oh, Milo's training is going well" or, "I'm schooling Milo next week." I loved to hear my instructor tell me how there were people he wouldnt' do anything for, and that I rode him better than anyone else. I just rode him and rode him and rode him... and though he always tried to throw me, or did throw me, I wouldn't give up on him. In my mind, he was my horse, I guess.
Phoebe, my favorite horse EVER, may she rest in peace.. She used to respond to my voice and I was sure that though she was crazy, if I got on her she'd be perfect. She was great with me on the ground and loved me... It was just a great experience for me, having a horse favor me like that.
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post #10 of 15 Old 05-06-2009, 09:42 PM
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Nobody liked Daisy. I was told she was stand-offish.

I took the time to get to know her, and we definitely "clicked." Yeah, she's got attitude. No, she doesn't like being fussed over. But we have a perfect understanding. No one else likes riding her but me. She listens to me. She trusts me. She knows me. Sometimes she's a pain, but she's my girl, and we just know each other forwards and backwards. She knows those days when I just really *need* to ride - those bad days when no one but her can take the edge off. She knows when I don't feel well. She knows when I'm upset. She takes it to heart. There are days when she doesn't want to work, and I get mad at her, but she makes up for it on other days.

She's my partner. She's my friend.

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