I don't like Clinton Anderson. He's not a bad trainer, just not a great one.
I highly suggest Buck Brannaman's training videos and methods. He is excellent with horses and is a great confidence builder. After I saw Buck's videos, I realized how poorly Anderson looks in comparison!
Tried Andersons 'colt starting' video. Oh my god AWFUL. Ran the colt in an arena until he was dripping with sweat then continued to work him. Buck did not run his filly and had her saddled in a day. Not broke, mind you, but saddled and calm. She was also sweaty from work, but not to the point where the viewer becomes alarmed.
Just watched his new 2011 movie 'Buck'. What he can do with a horse is really amazing. He's no nonsense about it too, makes some people cry :) Doesn't yell at them, just says 'Hey, this is how it is'
I'm using Clinton Anderson's Gaining Respect and Control on the Ground Series and his Riding with Confidence Series right now. I'm regaining confidence while in the saddle, and I'm feeling much more control on the ground. So far, his instructions have been clear. I talk about it at TVhorsetalk
I've been watching his show on RFD.tv for a couple of years now. I believe that he can probably help you regain your confidence. Bc he shows us all certain methods that work, however we don't get to see the ones that don't work. The part that is helpful is leadership with the horse. In an age (1920's) when the highest # of horses were owned/used in the USA, there was a trainer named "Berry." His methods taught leadership over the horse, too. One of Berry's tricks was to get the horse to submit to having a front leg tied up, then to lie down submissively. Many people were successful using Berry's methods and my father bought me his old published books in the 1970's to read.
I think you have found a good place to START. People have been studying horse training for many, many centuries now. I suggest that you begin a life-long study of horsemanship, like I have done. I never dismiss a trainer who is new to me, but I DO analyze their methods if they differ with the methods of trainers that I have tested and found to work. Horses (and other animals) don't lie. Methods either work or they fail.
Hope this helps you. =D
He has defnitely helped me (I've only done the ground work fundamentals) but... well... truth be told... I'm kind of a..... well... uh.... I like to hug and kiss and love and give treats and pet and .... well... I'm not a real aggressive person. Granted that's why I have issues.
I've been using the method and I really do see a big difference but it's really hard for me. I think it's giving me ulcers. Results I am getting but... I want to hug him and kiss him and love him....
I also like Buck a lot. I like his mentor Ray Hunt even more. If you really like the NH type trainer, you might check out Stacy Westfall. I've seen her work horses in person and have watched some of her dvd's and she's clear & concise in her work.
Regardless of what method you use, it's all about what works for you & the horse you're working with. One of my students is obsessed with learning and rents dvd's from giddupflix, she gets 2 a month for like 15 bucks or something ridiculous. You could check out a ton of trainers over the course of a year and not have spent what you would on one trainer's dvd collection.
Fyi, there's no law that says you can't hug, love & smooch your horses :)