Sigh! I want to be strict enough that he respects me, but not so domineering that he dreads working with me either. I am a softy by nature, so this dominance stuff is hard for me to do.
I am a complete softie too, but for some reason only with my horse, I have to force myself to be tougher. It's funny because if I get one wrong look from my foster kids I address it, but my horse is my stress release, my happy time for me and me alone, so I have to correct my nature and not let him get away with anything.