Gosh, everyone's been so nice and supportive. I really figured when I got up this morning I would read some things I didn't want to hear. But what I got was some really good communication. Thank you!
Yes, his motto in life is definitely "Let's play!" He really has no one to play with either. I have two other horses- his mom (can't put him back in with her because I just weaned him two months ago and his mom is still dripping milk) and my 18 yr old gelding, who is the best trail horse ever, but fails to reprimand the colt. He basically lets the colt climb all over him, so I separated them because I didn't want to encourage that due to the ponying incident. Maybe I should keep them together and there would be less climbing if they would be kept together at all times? I think (hope!) the older gelding would be alpha at meal time if nothing else.
It sounds like the BEST thing I could do would be to find a herd for him to spend a little time with.
I'm sure I HAVE been guilty of doing too much. He tolerates everything so well, it's like "let's see if I can put a saddle on him. Nope, he doesn't care about that either!" But I have been guilty of over-drilling the ground work in hopes of ending on a good note that sometimes doesn't come. Or maybe it does and I expect too much. I know I have been guilty of that.
He was gelded at 5 months and he's 9 months now, so I would love to blame it on hormones but I don't think that has anything to do with it. I wish it were that easy of a fix! (Maybe a lobotomy is the next step, lol!
I do think he's teething. He "yawns" a lot. Not really to yawn, but he seems to open his mouth and run his tongue over is teeth. I asked the vet about it and he just said they don't need anything done with their teeth until they are 2-3. He does have little baby wolf teeth in front of his top molars. (But I guess there isn't much hurry to remove them at this age, or is there?)
The push I had to pony and lead him was because I really wanted him to get out and see the world, and the exercise would be good for him. Right now he is living in a round pen, and I don't want him to spend the next couple of years in a round pen until he is old enough to ride. I HATE to see horses that live their lives in pens and never get out. That is a big pet peeve of mine- people who let their horses set and never do anything with them. I know it's good for his mind and body to get out, but it is just been so hard lately.
Anyhow, if I fail it won't be for lack of trying. He just breaks my heart because I don't want to fail at this. Giving him up would be like tearing my heart out. So I will definitely keep trying unless something major happens.
It really sounds like if I could get him in a herd situation where he is not alpha for a month or two, and get all the playing out of his system, that would really help.