well, I appreciate the responses.
I have been doing a lot of internal searching...looking into the mirror. I am working horses for other people who have none of my mare's issues. why? Well, they are not mine. if they make a mistake I will fix it, now or later. Talking to my wife, I have come to realize that when I use Da Mare (her name) to work other horses I am concentrating on the other horse, not her. When I am just riding Da Mare I have come to realize I micro manage her....probably making her self conscious and not confident. I AM MOST LIKELY THE ISSUE. I guess I need to go back to thinking more like the old southern California Vaqueros....Tomorrow... it can wait until then to accomplish the goal. She doesn't need to be perfect right now.