Wow, Kevin, your advice could add up to a far prettier penny than mine!
1.Okay, the first "how" is don't spend $1000 dollars on junk training gimmicks. 2.The second "how" would be to get a gentle, quiet older horse that she can handle with less difficulty. 3.Then she can get a riding instructor for herself and a 4.trainer for her bff horse.
I'll never figure out why the Parelli crowd always suggest the 7 games dvds. 5. Why do you think a person with very little experience can learn to ride a horse and train it at the same time from a DVD series.
1. I didn't ask her to spend anywhere near $1000, & certainly not on "gimmicks". She might be able to buy a used 7 Games video on ebay or forum like "It's About the Horse" where they have a merchandise thread, for a few bucks, yet even at full retail, 7 Games dvd isn't going to set you back much. I'll add, however, that you need a knotted halter (no flat web/leather) a yacht-braid 12' lead line, & a carrot stick OR reasonable fascimile (at less cost). I feel that anyone who can afford the upkeep on a horse can afford this equipment, so feel no twinge of conscience recommending them.
2. Getting a second horse may not be feasible, due to space/time/availability & financial constraints!
3. A riding instructor is going to eat up $ big-time, at price of most these days!
4. A separate trainer for the horse is likewise going to slim the wallet, aside from the fact that the owner
needs to gain the skill for the horse, so off-to-the-trainer doesn't fix their relationship! The horse's innate horsenality won't change from going to a trainer; he'll have it ready & waiting for owner when he returns. ;)
5. The student learning 7 Games isn't
riding the horse; that's the entire point of it! Groundwork is always where one starts with a horse, lesson 1 for any student. Embellishments: You'll never get more respect in the saddle than you do on the ground, & it's safer on ground, for both horse & human, so start on ground. You get the leadership of the horse on the ground before you even think of mounting, yet before you swing a leg over, you ask permission of the horse to do so; it's politeness like that which will cause your horse to want to keep you in the saddle rather than dump you.
OP, you know your own financial & other constraints; I'm sure that you can decide what's best for you & horse with the suggestions given here. Good luck!