My horse has the shortest attencion span EVER. When I tried to lounge her, she is always trying to go back to the barn, eat grass, winny at her friends, and do all kinds of stuff like that. I need a way to get her to pay attencion and respect me more. Anyone have any idea?
I suspect that Your attention span/your focus might not be as strong as you might think, and so your horse reflects this.
What I mean is...if you are trying to lunge your horse and she starts pulling away, and you refocus on THAT instead of sticking to your main plan of lunging....she pulls, so You React to her..."will you stop that! Come on! Pay attention!" And you're pulling on her, you're getting frustrated....all of this sends the signal to her that she can't follow your lead. So...since she can't trust you, she's got to trust her instinct, which says, "your safety is with the herd" and so she pulls away from you, wanting to get back to her safety....the herd.
Your requests for lunging become muddled and unclear to her, because your focus isn't on the tast at hand, but on "she's looking at her buddies again!"
Instead of reacting to her, pay VERY close attention on your own focus.
The moment you find yourself being distracted by (her lack of attention) redirect your focus back to the task.
You're lunging her, and she pulls away, look at her hip and tell the hip to move away (disengage) and this brings her head to face you. Stop her. Then start her up again for lunging. If you are consistent in doing this, you teach her that every time she pulls, she gets pressure on her hip (you don't need to touch the hip. Just take out the slack in the lead line and look at the hip and when it moves away and the back feet cross, you release) and must stop and face you (two eyes on you = you're more important) and start up again.
She learns when she doesn't pull away, she doesn't get all of that added "pressure" AND you're not arguing with her and you're also working on the two most important things in horse training: Go and Stop. Which will help you when you ride her.
Also....lunging can be very boring to a horse. If all you do is ask her to go around and around and around and around in one direction for too long (especially in a round pen), this can frustrate her and she might start to think of other things than you and lunging = she pulls away.
Solution: make it more interesting for her. Do lots of changes of direction. Send her out a circle and disengage her hip and stop her and send her out the other direction. Turn it into a rollback. (this is Clinton Anderson's Lunging for Respect part 1 + 2)
Use obstacles. Once you can lunge her at all speeds, put some poles on the ground, make them messy so she has to pick her way through them as she goes around and you change directions, too.....put a tarp on the ground, send her over it,....get some barrels, send her over and between the barrels (this can teach her to trailer load later on).