Coming from someone who has always had horses with issues being barn/buddy sour I know it can be very frusterating and dangerous at times. This horse is spoiled and is basically throwing a tantrum like a little child would do if he doesn't want to leave his friend's house. Your friend needs to either toughen up and tell this horse whos boss or get someone who can treat him like the 1000 pound animal he is and stop that nonsense.
How experienced is your friend? Does she have a trainer or other experienced horse person to help her?
Anyways - she is going to need a roundpen to really work with this horse. Tell her to bulid a round pen with poles and poly tape/wire. Its very inexpensive and works well.
Coco does not trust your friend nor has any respect for her and only tusts/respects his mother, if he trusted her.. he would not throw such a fit. Your friend needs to start over with this horse and bulid its trust and respect.
-Don't allow him to push her around. She is going to have to be tough for the first few times, but once he realizes whos head of the herd. It will get much easier to control him. If she needs help with that, look online at how to control a pushy horse. It will take me to long to write it.
Now, your friend will have to have the experience and the attitude to really get this horse where he needs to be. She cannot be whimpy and scared. Regardless of what he does, she needs to keep her footdown and tell him whos boss, otherwise she will just keeping going backwards with this horse and will probably get hurt herself. She will have to be on his every move, because this horse will try to take advantage and if she lets him - Coco will just get worse. So before you even read on - Ask her: Are you confident you can do this? Do you have the experience? Do you know what you are doing? If she said no to any of these, she should not be handling a green, spoiled 3 year old horse.
To start, Get the horse on a lunge line for now if she doesn't have a small roundpen or small paddock to lunge him in. Start with sending him in the direction SHE wants him to go in. Do not ever let him decide. If he goes to turn or change directions without her telling him to do so she better be right on his tail snarling, making him go back the other way. For now don't worry about voice commands. Just keep his feet moving, do NOT let him stop,change directions, or slow down without her asking him too. If he speeds up, for now, fine let him. But do not let him slow down. If he does, get right on his tail. Again, do not worry about voice commands at this time, just keep him moving using body language. After about 5 minutes, stop all energy. Put whip down and turn away from him. He should eventually stop and turn into her. Praise him for this and then pick up your whip/lunge line and send him in the other direction for about 5 minutes. After that, stop, let him come to you and praise him. Stop work for that day. Bath him, give him some loving, let him graze on the line, etc. But no more working for that day.
Do this everyday for about 2 days, then start adding voice commands. Walk,trot,canter,whoa. Each time you add something new, do it once a day for 2 days, then add something else to it. This will keep his mind engaged and won't keep lunging a mindless boring circle. Once he is listening to her body language and voice commands you can start undersaddle work.
I'm going to stop there, let her work on that and see where she gets. If she has any questions or needs help, contact me.
Also- do NOT ever be afraid to contact a trainer if you need help. I am no trainer and all the advice she will find online may be helpful, but maybe not perfect for her situation. If she knows she cannot do this by herself and needs help.. Get the help. Right now I am at a trainers with my new gelding I just bought because, he has some issues that I felt would be good if I got someone with more experience to help me handle. And i've had plently of years with horses and I still admit that sometimes I need help.
Last edited by justhorsinaround1; 08-29-2012 at 02:53 PM.