For one thing, you hafta make her realise that YOU are the herd too. Ever notice how as long as the horse has one buddy from the herd they are ok, but all alone with only a human they get nervous? She doesn't know that you represent the same safety and comfort that the herd does.
First off, you need to spend alot of time with this mare, and for no 'reason'. You need to spend time with her in the pasture, just hanging out, sitting in the grass and doin nothin while she grazes. You also need to take her out for long walks, (also gives you a chance to desensitize her to the goblins around if you want to ride off-protperty with her), letting her graze but telling her where to graze maintains your alpha status. Also, letting her eat with only you around makes you part of the herd. I would recommend at least twice a week, for an hour or more. This better aquaints her with your company and makes you part of the herd, so she will be as comfortable with you as with a herd mate.
Also, you need to slowly train her to be away from the other horses. For instance, when you take her out to hand-graze her, let her see the other horses, but encourage her to graze. If she wants to sniff noses with the horses on the other side of the fence, let her. We are going to babystep her away from the others. (Altho this method takes time, it works, I had 2 arabs that had never been apart and I did this and after about 3 months I could seperate them with no anxiety). Eventually the other horses will get bored and graze, and so will she. Then, when she has been grazing calmly by herself, put her up. Next time, go a LITTLE farther away, letting her go to the fence and whinny at her friends, but also let her realise that she is allowed to graze on good 'yard' grass, and her stomach will take over. Let her graze quietly for awhile, then put her back. And each time you do this, only put her back once she has grazed quietly, don't put her back while she is buggin about the other horses. And, each time you do it, try and get her to go a little farther away, too.
THis technique also works with teaching them to let other horses leave them. You walk away with the other horse, and you walk right back. You walk away, and you walk right back. Away and back, away and back. Once the horse gets it in their head that buddy will be back, they learn not to fret. Seperate your horse for a little while, then reward them AFTER they have become quiet by being turned back with them.
If she pitches a fit to be with the other horses, and you give in, YOU have taught her how to get what she wants. Now teach her that she hasta quiet down to get what she wants, and once the lightbulb clicks in you will find it much easier.
Oh, and she sounds like a magnitizer, so I would never untack her in the same spot, she will magnitize to it and ignore you to get back to that spot.
Herd bound and barn sour are always magnitizers, so you hafta keep them guessing as to where to magnitize to.
ANd don't think just because she is 'sweet and submissive' means she considers you alpha. And if she isn't listening to you, then she doesnt'.
Hope this helps!
Know thyself, know thy horse.
Last edited by DarkChylde; 11-19-2008 at 08:40 AM.