Dealing with know-it-alls!
I have two young geldings in training. My experience with horses goes back to my childhood (a LONG time ago!), and while I do not consider myself a trainer I am no greenhorn, either. I did take several years off while raising a child, and re-entered the horse world about 2 1/2 years ago. A good friend, who I used to ride with before I had my son, continued with horses throughout that time and now wants to "help" me with these ones. I recently took them for a month of training with a very well recognized professional trainer, and I went with them and participated daily in their training. My friend still continues to "correct" everything I do with them, in many cases contradictory to what the trainer taught. It irritates me, but I try to be patient as she is a very good friend and means well, and she HAS been very helpful and generous in many ways. I don't want to confuse the horses, as they have had a very good start with this trainer and I want to continue using her methods. How do I get my friend to lay off and let me train them my way (which is working very well, so far), wihout offending or hurting her feelings?