Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: East Central Illinois
I've owned/trained horses LONG ENOUGH to ask this question, too. I think that you should understand that no horse has an agenda or is trying to irritate you OR frustrate you. They only know:
1) what they have learned
2) what they need to do to avoid pain
If you get frustrated and physically take it out on your horse, EVEN THOUGH THERE ARE FEW THINGS THAT WE CAN DO to really hurt a horse--like when my gelding stepped on my foot recently and I kicked him in the "shins" (cannon bone)--you should try to get your emotions under control when you work with your horse.
Horses are emotional. That is why so many women own/train/love them, bc they express emotions like many women express emotions.
Try to think about what your horse does well when you have a bad day and work on those things when you get frustrated. Leave the barn with your horse knowing that he pleased you today. Go home and puzzle through what you didn't like in his training, and then try to figure out how to fix it.
I had been thrown and broken my arm, then stupidly got on several "Alpos" looking for new horses, two of whom bucked and I slipped off, unhurt--my old herd was dying off, you see--and I was afraid of my gelding. His 16'2hh height, as a 3yo, didn't help this. FINALLY, after teaching him perfect leading-out-his-stall behavior, so that he NOW walks around the gate, puts his head and the lead on my side and WAITS for me to unbuckle his halter, he finally "told" me that he was really..."little"...and I was scaring him. Since then, we've gotten along great and the training just gets better and better.
I don't trust him well enough to remove burrs from his tail standing right in back of him bc he might forget I'm there and step on me, BUT, it's gonna be ok.