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        09-23-2013, 06:19 PM
    A long while ago I used to do as you do, until I realized that it was unhealthy. Why am I getting upset with my horse who only wants to please me and enjoy being out with his friends? He wasn't the one that was xyz (some negative experince) to me that day. And even if he was, I need to just get over it and stay neutral.

    Now the barn is my place to wind down and 'get my head in the game' instead of worrying or being angry.

    If I'm to a point where I'm feeling so negative then I don't even get on. I just spend time relaxing with my horse, pampering him via grooming or a trail walk. I always leave the barn in a good place.
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        09-23-2013, 06:30 PM
    If I find myself emotionally in a state where I know I'm not going to be focused enough to ride properly and with tact, I don't ride. Or if I do ride, it will be a short trail ride or a few bareback laps around the arena. But usually I'll just spend time with my horse and groom her or take her for a walk and let her hand graze. Something that will let me relax, and will be a treat for her.
        09-23-2013, 07:48 PM
    The barn was always a place for me to leave all my troubles behind me - I never thought about forgetting everything it just happened naturally!

    10 years later I run and manage a large horse boarding facility with riding lessons, girl scouts, birthday parties, and handicapped riding. I run it myself - there are some days I am so stressed over the politics and other things going on that the horses pick up on it immediately. They frustrate me worse and then I realize they infact are being "bad" because they don't even want to be around me when I am in a bad mood. Plus everything irritates you when you're in a bad mood that may normally not bother you.

    Sometimes I have to step back, breathe and remind myself to let the stress go away and how much I enjoy the horses themselves.

    My mustang mare would not let me catch her when Im in a bad mood. When I am in a happy mood that its bubbling - she comes galloping up to me and bucking as she senses it.

    Remember a horse is a mirror. You will find yourself in all of your horse's actions. I know I do - my horse is my barometer and lets me know how I am truly feeling.
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        09-23-2013, 08:06 PM
    Originally Posted by anotherchance90    

    Remember a horse is a mirror. You will find yourself in all of your horse's actions.
    We need a "LOVE" button for things like this!
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        09-24-2013, 02:06 AM
    Well, generally speaking horses are also for me a way to stop worrying about everyday stuff, but it doesn't always happen at the barn door. Sometimes while grooming my horse these thoughts just go away, sometimes they stay or come back while I ride. I guess that is kind of natural for me, because I tend to be unconcentrated and "elsewhere" in my thoughts.
        10-25-2013, 08:04 PM
    Green Broke
    ^Maybe if you give yourself small tasks and goals to put your attention toward while at the barn you won't have as much difficulty focusing?
        10-25-2013, 10:01 PM
    I heard this once the best thing for a marriage is a stubborn horse,who knew they could do so much more than lug us around.I NEVER LET OUTSIDE FEELINGS GET IN THE WAY OF MY TRAINING
        10-25-2013, 10:32 PM
    Originally Posted by anotherchance90    
    Remember a horse is a mirror. You will find yourself in all of your horse's actions. I know I do - my horse is my barometer and lets me know how I am truly feeling.
    Who needs mood rings when we have our horses? ;)

    I agree with what's been said, but I do remember a time when I was much younger and would often let my impatience and frustrations get the better of me. What really got me was the look Mr. Max would give me when I started getting really upset or over focusing on one thing, and that would bring me back. He was telling me to cool it. If it was very ridiculous I'd get off and walk around a bit to cool off. I got over that phase of emotions very quick after Max came into the picture.

    Now the barn is just a getaway. If you are frustrated just hit pause and focus on the happy moments of horse life :)
        10-25-2013, 10:33 PM
    I'd lose my paying gigs if I let my own feelings, or troubles, affect my interaction with a horse. I recently bought one of my own, now that I've gotten the kids through college and all that. I still don't bring my issues to the barn, whether it's my own or a clients.

    Put it all aside. The stressors will still be there when you're finished.
        10-25-2013, 10:47 PM
    Green Broke
    If I have a bad day, there is no chance I am getting on a 700kg flight animal. That is one battle I won't win!

    Stress relief... My horses are good at that, but sometimes when stuff is going down I groom and call it a day.

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