OH my gosh, I do that. If i want my horse to move laterally, I will look over at his jowl, kind of, . like say I want him to go left, I look at his right jowl. It's really stupid. It's like I am trying to mentally "push" him over by leaning over and looking him. it puts me off balance and is exactly the wrong place for me to have my weight. He can't move left if my weight is on the right side.
So, I have to stop "helping" him. Really, stop hindering him. I have to think as if I were the horse, or rather , his legs were mine. So, if I wanted him to move leftward, I'd want my weight over leftward, correct?
I have to get MY mind in the game!