Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Washington State
I'm no expert but here's my thought.
I feel like your slightly 'wrong' on your approach to wanting her totally focused on you and not distracted. If you keep a horse busy and they forget to be afraid that learned behavior of fear turns into something else entirely. So my suggestion is simple. Get off the 'its gotta be memememe' horse and get her comfortable and distracted by food and constantly having 'fun' going out.. associating going out with yum yums and rubs and grooming and whatever it is you know she likes... and once she gets to that stage then start bringing her back to focus entirely on you and what you are wanting.
I'm all for this 'be the leader' deal, but I also think its a bit bunk that if you are THE leader that the horse will forget all about their fears because you aren't afraid. I mean, honestly, they aren't that stupid.
Get her over being afraid of being 'out of her field' first then worry about having her listen and respect you all the time. A distracted horse that's afraid isn't going to listen to anyone really, not until the thing or series of events that's making them afraid goes away or they discover that fearful things aren't enough to be worried about.
How is she on the ground in her comfort area with things like bags on sticks, giant plastic balls, tarps being dragged on the ground? Will she let a big scary tarp chase her around tied to her saddle or does she freak with that too? You might want to let us know how she behaves with that?
I've seen some really great trainers turn the bravest horses in the world into quiverying babies by simply puffing large plastic containers of baby powder at them (cause baby powder clouds are horse eating clouds right?) or by just putting a chair in the arena and lifting it up oddly in a non-traditional use. You might just want to go back to basics and see how she's doing on these things before moving on to bigger scarier out of the pasture things.