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post #1 of 23 Old 09-15-2009, 03:23 PM Thread Starter
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Dilema of my life...Kinda long please help

Hi everybody

I'm new here.Love reading people's posts and appreciate the info you get.Feel kinda lucky to get in as all horse boards seems to have their registration closed at this point.....
I've been having this delimma since long.....to own a horse or not .This is kinda long so please do bear with me.Would really appreciate advise.

I am just started riding about 5mths ago.Have been crazy about horses since young,never got a chance to get to ride them as we moved overseas where riding horses are not available(,they are just used for pulling carts).I am in the US now for the last 6yrs.

I have always wanted a horse.been kinda crazy about them,but have been discouraged a lot by horse owners about the costs vet bills,etc.Trainers have told me I would be better off just taking lessons 3-4 times a week.Leasing is not an option either as finding a good horse has been hard and there are not many people wanting to lease a good horse either.

Right now I an can trot and some canter but progress has been very slow.My legs are not very steady in the trot and sometime I tend to fall forward if the horse stops or slows down.Also I feel i need more time in the saddle if I want to improve my riding.2-3 lessons a week is simply not cutting it.
I have considered buying a horse having it boarded just so I can practice on it at times after lessons but my trainers keep telling me the costs would be prohibitive and sometimes good horses are ruined by beginner riders who don't know what they are doing.

Right now I am spending about $150-200 in lessons alone /week.If i have a horse boarded here it would be $400/mth+ all the routine farrier/vet bills .I could take lessons only once a week and practice at other times but my trainers seem to be discouraging me from doing it .I love trail riding as well and would love to have a horse to ride in the trails on some days.

My questions is.

Would i be better off having a horse and practicing myself instead of taking so many lessons?

Do you need to be very experienced before you can get a horse?

Any advice? Thank you for listeing to my rant.
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post #2 of 23 Old 09-15-2009, 03:29 PM
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I think if you have a good instructor, you learn more with lessons (or at least I do) than on your own.

I think you need to be fairly experienced before you own a horse but if you have knowledgeable horse people helping you and a experienced horse, you would be fine.
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post #3 of 23 Old 09-15-2009, 03:37 PM
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keep taking lessons before getting a horse. If you dont know what you're doing, yes you can ruin a horse. Or, if you want a horse and have the means to get one, I'd suggest an older quarter horse or thoroughbred. Older horses are usually easy going and perfect for beginners. you also REALLY need to get a good seat before trail riding. practice the basics, maybe get an old, friendly horse, then when you're ready, buy a younger one.

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post #4 of 23 Old 09-15-2009, 09:03 PM
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Getting a horse is entirely up to you. I have supported my own horse for about 9 years now. Sometimes it was financially hard, especially with unexpected vet bills, but I just made it work. For me, I don't go shopping, I don't eat out often, I don't spend a lot of money on entertainment - I save it for my horses. Yes, it is expensive, but I am entirely happy. I would not trade it for anything. Now, I train and teach riding lessons. Sure some beginners "ruin" horses, but so do some trainers. Also, it sounds like you take lessons, so I can't imagine you are a terrible rider! Furthermore, we have all been beginners sometime. Beginners need horses who are really forgiving. That all could be helped by you finding the right horse. Also, beginners need people around them to show them the ropes! This horse forum is great - but sometimes you need real life support!

It is really ideal to have a horse you can jump on consistently through out the week, work on things, and then take the weekly (or bi-weekly or whatever) lesson to keep progressing. You could find people to clinic with as well.

Some people share horses. I have friends who have made that work. You could co-own a horse with someone, splitting all costs. Also, you could lease a horse for a while to see if it is something you are in to. Lessons are great, but if you don't have a horse you can just ride whenever, you are restricted to the lessons for your only contact. To really advance at your riding, you must ride everyday (or really close to it). Do you know anyone who needs their horse ridden? Maybe you could make an arrangement to ride with a horse who does not have an owner who can see them all the time. Does your instructor know of some horses who would need this kind of attention and would be a fit for you? I am just throwing out ideas for you.

Also, horses are like children. If they get sick, hurt, or have needs, you must drop everything and make them priority. But, I am sure you would do that anyway:) Horses need people who will care for them no matter what, love them unconditionally, and never bail on them. It is kind of like getting married! Are you that person? Keep us posted!! Good luck!

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post #5 of 23 Old 09-15-2009, 09:04 PM
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That is what I would do. If you are wanting to buy then get an older horse that is more forgiving to the beginners mistakes.
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post #6 of 23 Old 09-16-2009, 05:40 AM
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I would continue taking lessons until you are a very confident rider who can handle lots of things (such as the sudden stops/slow downs). You'll learn much better being able to have a good trainer and the experience of riding different horses. I took lessons for 4 years before I got my first horse, and while I would've loved to have one long before that, I'm glad I had to wait.
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post #7 of 23 Old 09-16-2009, 08:37 AM
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I agree with the posters who suggested waiting until you are more confident in your horsemanship skills before buying a horse.
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post #8 of 23 Old 09-16-2009, 08:59 AM
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If you are with a competent trainer that can help you (via riding the horse to keep training on, giving lots of lessons, etc..) and you are willing to make a significant financial and time commitment then I see no problem with purchasing a horse at this point.
When I say significant financial commitment I'm talking about paying tens of thousands for a semi-talented schoolmaster and between 1500-2500 a month to be at a barn with a trainer that is going to be able to keep the horse going, and teach you as quickly as you would like to learn.
You are quickly going to see that horse sport is a rich man's game... The more money you can spend the faster you're going to learn and be successful.
If you are not willing to make such a significant financial contribution yet in your horsey career, then I would continue taking lessons and find a horse to lease eventually (at this point, with the hay shortage (at least in my area) and the slow economy, there is an abundance of very nice horses to lease).
Personally, to me it sounds like your coach isn't that great. For $50 a lesson ( it sounds like that's what you're paying) your coach should be a little more "yes" than "no". From your description it sounds like she doesn't want you to find another coach and leave. What are her highest level students doing? Does she buy them horses, or do the students find them?
Good luck!
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post #9 of 23 Old 09-16-2009, 12:46 PM
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You didn't say how old you are and if your working and paying your own bills or if your parents are footing the bill......
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i'm an adult and actually working a very respectable job part time.however DH does not approve of my interest and I can't spend too much money either
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