Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Chittering, Western Australia
I have a problem and I need as much help as I can get!!!
My mare is 16 this year. I've owned her for about 4 years. She's my first horse, though I've been riding and handling other people's others since about 7 (I'm 20). My mare is a dominant mare, who in her two previous homes was not taught any manners at all. She is rude, disrespectful and often dangerous. As I say, a lot of what I do I am learning my trial and error, as I am coming across these problems for the first time.
I am also becoming a lot more confident and have learnt a lot. But the thing is, although she is extremely disrespecful, I have always managed to keep it reasonably under control. Here's a bit of our history: She's an extremely intelligent horse, and I mostly ride out in the bush (I don't know enough yet to really get much out of arena work). At one point I couldnt catch her. But we've over come that, I can catch her but when I walk up to her she has a cranky expression on her face and refuses to look at me, or come towards me. The second main problem I had once lunging her, (admittedly at the time I was pretty in experianced) and she would rear, buck, kick at me, put her ears back at charge at me. Pretty scary. She's never hurt me, I really don't think she would, I think she's jut trying to threaten me. With some help frm a trainor I can now lunge her. The next problem we encountered was the bucking. At it's worst point I couldnt use my legs to ask her forwards without her breakig into fits of bucking. Extremely frusterating when you can't walk forward. Again I had help from a trainor, and we overcame it. And yes I did get the saddle checked for fit, and it was fine. The trainor said it was respect issues.
After all this we were getting along really well. For about a year. She had her moments like any horse. But generally things were good. I even float trained her myself without help.
Then I put her in foal. Two things happened at the same time, obviously the first is that she was sent off to stud for a couple of weeks, where she was handled by a lot of new people and had a lot of new experiences (sex for one!!) . The other is that when she got back we had another new horse. Ever since then, she has been more disrespectful than ever. She is pretty much impossible to ride. She fights and pulls and gets all worked up, if I give the tiniest bit on the reins she wants to immediately take off. I was trying to slow her down, and I pulled her nose around nearly to her bum to go in a tight circle and she jut went faster and faster until she as cntering like that and she doesnt care that we are running into things, falling down ditches or over rocks... Whatever I ask her to do, even stuff she knew before, she does exactly the opposite. She hates being handled and groomed. Hates being ridden, when she sees me come down to the paddock she puts her ears back and walks away. It's absolutely heartbreaking... it made me cry the other day it upset me so much, because I love her to death. I'm so scared that by being like this she will no doubt teach her foal to be disrepectful and hard to handle jut like her. I am starting lessons with a trainor soon, but I am so desperate for advice and help!!!
Just another point: she has never been abused to my knowledge, and I my goal is to treat her fairly, quietly, FIRMLY !!
I'm sorry this is so long, but I though it would be better to be pretty detailed so anyone that might be able to help knows pretty much the full story.
PLEASE HELP!! I am at my wits end with her! I just don't knowwhat to do anymore... it's exhausting and heartbreaking... especially because we'd been going so well and BANG she comes back from stud and she's been possessed by the devil!!!