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post #11 of 24 Old 01-09-2012, 02:05 PM
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Well, my mare prefers men. If a guy stands next to the corral, she'll come over, sniff, and hang out with the guys. She has little interest in women, even if she knows them.

I have a gelding who prefers women. I'm pretty sure it is based on his experiences at a ranch in Colorado, since he avoids anyone with a cowboy hat. Over the years, he has learned to tolerate cowboy hats, but a woman without a cowboy hat can approach him much easier. The scars on his side where he was spurred bloody make it easy to understand his feelings.

My BLM mustang shows no preference.

For riding, skill makes far more of a difference than sex. Any of them strongly prefer a good rider to a newbie, although the geldings will tolerate newbies, and the mare has put up with a couple of first time riding guys (but not girls...she despises teen girls). But in the saddle, they care about balance & confidence, not sex.
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post #12 of 24 Old 01-09-2012, 04:12 PM
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I had a mare who would not let a man touch her. She would tolerate other females. I could do anything with her. I was also the only one who ever rode her from the first to the last time. But, she did not like men!
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post #13 of 24 Old 01-09-2012, 06:19 PM
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I agree with it just being about past experiences and manners.

I knew a mare who had been abused by the man who trained her and so she was very aggressive from then on towards anyone, in particular men though. I think it was mostly men who reminded her of him. As long as you were always aware and readhy to put in her place you were pretty safe to handle her on the ground, though she had been known to charge at people from across the paddock.

Then I also know a big gelding who apparently is only a mans horse. My riding instructor however easily handles him because she puts him in his place when its required. When you see him though he will walk up to a man before a woman hes the same with horses too he has to be in a paddock alone or with geldings because he attacks mares.

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post #14 of 24 Old 01-09-2012, 07:15 PM
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I once was given a horse that was said to prefer women (I am a woman). What I decided is that he was sensitive and could be handled gently. He didn't like being rough-housed.

If the men who rode him were sensitive/gentle there was no problem. He did great for a couple of guys that I let ride him.

Your horse might prefer someone more confident/assertive. I doubt gender has much to do with it, it's more that men tend to be assertive, women sensitive.....generally speaking of course.
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post #15 of 24 Old 01-09-2012, 08:34 PM
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I think it depends on what they get used to. As well as, there has to be trust and/or respect between the horse and the rider.

I have a horse that I have had since he was 22 months old. I trained him myself, I am the only one that has ridden him, I am the only one that takes care of him. I spend hours with him everyday. He is nine years old now. We have been on hundreds of miles of trails, all over the place. He completely trust me and I him.

My husband and I was going on a trail ride with some friends and I was trying to pack up the rest of the stuff in the horse trailer. I asked my husband to brush my horse down to save time. My husband informed me that my gentle horse that I never have trouble with, pinned his ears back, attempting to nip at him , cow kicked at him while he was trying to brush him down. My husband said that he could tell that I was walking up because my horse started watching the barn door and straighten up and acted as if everything was fine as soon as he seen me.

This horse is so spoiled to me that he will not let any of our other horses near me when I walk out in the field with them. Soon as I go to the gate, he is running to the gate and I have to catch him first and put him into the stall so that I can catch the other horses.

So, I am thinking if you want this horse to trust you and get attach to you, then you need to be the one to do everything for this horse. I did a lot of round penning and teaching ground manners and control before I ever ride my horses. I spend time with them every day, brushing while their eating, talking to them, cleaning out their stalls while they are cross tied watching me. They are completely depended on me.

I think that if you spend a lot of time with him, take time to do a lot of ground work and get your confidence while working with him. He will trust you and it will not matter to him if you are a male or female.

Good luck with him, I hope that you will have many happy trails with him.

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post #16 of 24 Old 01-12-2012, 11:43 AM
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I think they most definitely have a preference.

My mare adores men! My farrier keeps my horses on a schedule and if I'm not there, he'll just pull them out and do them... last time, I went to meet him to give him a Christmas gift and stayed and chatted while he shod my mare and trimmed my boy. My mare cuddled him so much I asked if I should get them a room lol. He said he loved her back and that she is very sweet. She also adores my boyfriend, and she slipped in some wet grass at a jumper derby last year and fell, I fell off and rolled away and she got up and trotted over to BF.

My gelding loves anybody and everybody, he is an equal opportunity lover.
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post #17 of 24 Old 01-12-2012, 11:46 AM
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I've heard of stud's getting really aggressive towards girls when it's that time of the month...true or false?

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post #18 of 24 Old 01-12-2012, 12:05 PM
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I don't think gender is a deciding factor with horses... I think it's more of a matter of the attitude of the rider, and how soft the rider is with them... I think personality has more to do with it.
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post #19 of 24 Old 01-14-2012, 10:58 AM
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I agree that it probably isn't a gender thing, its more the way a person rides. He was probably responding to the fact that your friend is a more aggressive rider and not the fact that he has more testosterone.
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post #20 of 24 Old 01-15-2012, 12:20 AM
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Yes and no? I think a lot of it has to do with if the horse respects you, but my friend's horse isn't really great with males. She's an OTTB and we think she might have been abused by men or something, because she doesn't trust them. She's fine with us girls though.
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