Here's what I was focused on while I was riding - trying to keep a soft seat and having contact with the 3 points of my seat. Trying to use my stomach, I'm not sure how to explain it, I guess I was using my stomach/core to connect the horse and myself. A little like a shock absorber. Unfortunately I was not super consistent but I could certainly feel when I was getting "off" and I would try to relax and use my core area again. I must say that when it was feeling right it was very fun. It felt great.
I had only light contact with the bit, another thing that was fun. She usually doesn't require a heavy hand, but more so than we had yesterday. It really felt like we were working together. She just normally doesn't put her head low like that so I was wondering if I was doing something wrong. Sounds like maybe we were on the right track and I shouldn't be alarmed, yeah!
We didn't lunge for very long - 5-10 minutes and even then I was trying something new - no lunge line. Lily was a champ and responded almost better than when we use the lunge line!
I will continue to work on my seat and having light contact. When I give her some light leg pressure should I expect her to speed up at all? Or will I just feel her back stretching out more? Also, I don't have a riding instructor so should I keep trying to use my stomach as I was and will it feel "right" like it did yesterday? In other words how will I know if I'm doing things correctly?
Again, I really don't have lots of experience with all of this, I was going off things that I have read that make sense but mostly on what felt right. Even though it was a short ride it was fun. I was pretty giddy for the rest of the day!
JDI - I hope some day that this that what we'll look like!!
Thanks again for the great replies!