Can someone just help me realize how the heck to make my horse submissive to me and be like a puppy dog
First, get a different breed, like a Quarter Horse.
Then, add fifteen years to its age. Add fifteen years of training already done, too.
I don't know what you mean by 'submissive'. I don't want a horse that is 'submissive'. Obedient, yes, but I don't want a horse that will put its head down and act like a whipped dog every time I come around. And neither of the breeds you mention are going to put their head down and act like a Quarter Horse. They're bred to keep their head and neck UP. That's how they're built.
Both Dutch Warmbloods and Irish Drafts are extremely affectionate, loving breeds who love people and are perfectly willing to be very obedient. But if yours is nipping and striking, something is really missing from its training.
You need help, not internet advice or internet research(and not dvd's). In-person help with this horse, from a good horse trainer.
No one can explain on the internet, how to position yourself, use your body, read how much punishment to apply, when to correct the horse, when to stop, etc. You need someone to help you. Preferably before you get hurt.
I think you probably also need someone to evaluate the animal's diet. The description sounds like it's of a horse that is getting too much grain, rich hay, supplements and not enough exercise.
Dutch Warmbloods and Irish Drafts are energetic, powerful, strong very vigorous breeds bred to work and work hard. They need activity every day, and to be in a consistent program, day in and day out, they can't just stand around and be quiet like some other breeds.
NEITHER breed should be longed, round penned or long lined at 3. Both breeds, you have to be very careful that you are not working them like that, in a small area, with lots of turning. They should be longed only for a few weeks, before they're broke to ride at 3 1/2. They need to be broke later as they mature differently from other breeds.
They can be ridden, ponied, turned out in a large field with a gang of other young horses to run and play all day, and they can be groomed, tied, loaded in a trailer and hauled around the block.
They are generally curious and need things that will keep them busy and happy.
Last edited by slc; 02-18-2011 at 11:00 PM.