I had a student a bit ago. She's about 11 and was doing 4H with her pony. She had a just broke 7 year old and was a very nervous and anxious rider. The pony was barely green broke. I explained to the parents about getting a more schooled pony while her other one got some training. I even offered to get the basics on her for free for just a project of my own. They refused because they looovee her and the child seems to make all the decisions. I worked with the client for about 3 months and got her to the point where she could walk trot in a relaxed manner and correct her pony when she tried to break gait or duck into the middle of the arena. I had some personal issues so ended up moving about an hour away.
I've kept in touch off and on, but today is the first time I have seen her in about 7 months. She was riding with my former instructor where I board who is very successful in the WP world and has students constantly at world and congress.
I watched the student ride and she can no longer get her diagonals, can't correct a wrong one, and can not neck rein.
The solution by the end of the night was to put the horse in draw reins, change the short mild shanked western bit she had (required for showing), and replace it with a long shanked bit which she proceeded to direct rein in. There was talk about getting her spurs.
I'm not really mad at the parents because they don't seem to be show people and are trusting the instructor. I'm dissapointed with the instructor though. I hate how instead of taking a weekend show out of the picture and teaching your horse to neck rein, you just put a bigger bit in the mouth.
What irritates me is SHE WINS but I see her and her students riding heavy handed, always with their heads tied down, and with big bits being ridden two handed.
I don't feel theres anything I can say, but it just irritates the hell outta me!