It's got nothing to do with anything in front of her shoulders. Forget about that thing in front and teach her to bend through her body. She's traveling dead straight in that picture. That's 100% leverage for her and none for you.
Teach her to leg yeild, turn on the forehand, turn on the haunches, tons of circles and serpentines, anything that creates bend through the body. Be sure to let go of her face, soften your elbows and be sure to follow her motion with your hands. Don't throw away to contact, but offer her more inviting contact that she wants to stretch into instead of brace against.
You just have to see your distance...you don't have to like it.