I used to disagree with a lot of what Cherie said. Then I gained some experience...
This is from another thread, but I went looking to see what else had been written.
"Today I went to work with her, I usually go around 1pm, well I went at 8am, on the way home from taking my daughter to school. I decided that 8am is just going to work better for me, but she doesn't get turned out til about 8:30/9am. So...not only did she not get her morning hay with her friends, I haven't seen her in over a week, and I changed my normal visit time. She was bad, mad, and fully ready to tell me. She did fine for the grooming, but when I brought her up to lunge her (which I decided is all I was going to do considering I had taken her away from her grazing and she was ANGRY) while she was on the lunge line she would pull her face, (fine I can work with that), rear at me, and kick with her front feet at me. She wasn't charging me and was a good 6 feet from me, but all in all was making sure I knew that she was not having it."
My mare is fairly intense, dominant and opinionated. However, if I come and take her away from her hay...so be it. She gets 22-23 hours a day to eat and be with other horses. When I arrive, she's on MY
She isn't allowed to be angry. She isn't allowed to tell me "she was not having it." No rearing, no kicking, no head tossing, no sass. If she reared at me, I'd nail her with the Hammer of Thor. Or whatever else I had nearby. At that point, she would be one step away from the gut wagon, or the auction in modern American terms. A horse who thinks you are subordinate is a horse who could kill you without even meaning to do so.
In addition, I figure I can take whatever respect and obedience she gives me on the ground, and have about 50% of it left once I'm in the saddle. It is kind of like stopping - if a horse gives you a sloppy stop at a walk, there will be hell to pay at a gallop!
There is nothing abusive about expecting a horse to behave, and nothing abusive about taking any steps needed to get the job done. The real abuse is being so kind and loving that you turn a good horse into a monster destined for a one way trip to Mexico.
BTW - without inspecting, I have no idea when Mia is in heat. Part of that is her personality, but using being in heat as an excuse for a horse to rear & strike out is like allowing women to claim they shot someone because it was that time of the month - it is a non-starter. If someone tells you your mare is dominating you because she is in heat, they are blowing smoke up your butt. She's dominating because she views you as a lower, unworthy being.
Just IMHO. Mine isn't worth a huge amount, but Cherie's is!
Pay attention, or pay the consequences. A flick of the hoof can remove your face, or the face of a child.