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post #11 of 26 Old 11-05-2008, 01:47 PM
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As usual, I'm going to sound like a bit of a lunatic here, I am SCARED of heights!!! No ladders or anything for me!!! Nope, NO WAY.....

Soooo...Now I'm on this horse and it just plumb freaks me out because, well...I'm up in the air and I'm pretty sure God mad me a ground dweller!!!!

What I did to give myself confidence in the saddle was to practice jumping off the side of the steps that lead to an old barn on my property...LOL....The top step is about 4' off the ground and to most people they wouldn't think twice about hopping of of it. It took me convincing myself that I wouldn't die while I was falling... I don't mind crashing and rolling on the ground...It's the sensation of the fall.. Egads that just does a number on my stomach, Like I'm out of control... almost like a wind gush up from my toes and gets caught in my chest...Truely and eerie feeling.

Once I jumped a few times, I began to be able to control my guts and learned to supress that feeling. Not that I don't still feel it, but I know it will be OK. More like I learned to tolerate it...Like the annual trip to the Gyno...You just tolerate it.....lol.....

Sounds like you have a great horse. Spend some time with it, learn to trust it from the ground. Then tackle your fear...disect it and figure out what part really pushes your buttons...Then figure out a way to overcome it. In my case I found that by breaking the fear into bite size pieces I was able to deal with it.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!! Hope I helped some!!!

Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don't be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.

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post #12 of 26 Old 11-05-2008, 02:00 PM Thread Starter
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That's it....
Thats just how I feel, I have figured out being up there is OK, unless someone is standing beside me and we are talking and I see how high up I am....
Then once Mollie starts to walk I fear she will just haul off in a full out gallop, mind you she never has and I do feel better having some close just talking to even if its, "shoulders back, heel down"... anything I wish there was someone to ride with for now, I think it will be awhile before I feel relaxed to just go off on my own, which is sad because having 25 acres of land is what I know so many people wish they had to ride....
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Don't beat yourself up about it. That won't help. I really like Royal Freckles advice about just sitting there until you are comfortable (however long that takes), then walk a few steps....then trot etc. It's not like you don't have the time or land to ride on. It's not an hourly lease or anything. Just do what you gotta do to get yourself comfortable. Horsemanship is not an exact science, there is no one way to do it. The best you can do is the right way!!!!

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post #14 of 26 Old 11-06-2008, 12:39 AM
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If it is any consolation, I work for the Texas Department of Criminal Justice and have ridden some of their horses. They are all really well broke and have been ridden by all different kinds of people so they don't get excited over something new. My advise is start in a very small area like a round pen, not an arena. Just sit on her for a while and when you can relax enough, ask for a walk. If you get scared, just ask her to stop. Keep working on this until you are more confident. When you decide to take her out onto the land, ask a friend to ride with you, not walk beside. Also, sometimes it helps just to talk to your horse when you are on them. They are very good listeners and are not going to judge you. Take your time and don't scare yourself too bad but don't give up. There really is no feeling like galloping a horse across a pasture with the wind in your hair and the sun on your face. If you don't mind me asking, where in TX are you from?

Always remember that feeling of looking at a big, open country over the ears of a good horse, seeing a new trail unwind ahead of you, and that ever-spectacular view from the top of the ridge!!! Follow my training blog: http://robertsontraining.blogspot.com/
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Wow I was so glad to hear from you, since you have experience with the horses at the prison, I live in Alvin TX, I would love to get some kind of history on Molly the only thing I have is the coggins test, is there anyway of getting more, she was retired the week before the hurricane, I would like to know if she has issues that I may need to know, health checks, sire...I hope to hear from you....
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Wow I couldn't imagine worrying about the height of sitting on a horse. I feel at home on a horses back... Bummer... but of luck to you though!!

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Wow I couldn't imagine worrying about the height of sitting on a horse. I feel at home on a horses back... Bummer... but of luck to you though!!
That was the way I was for pretty much my whole life also UNTIL I was as close to being killed as can be a year or two ago. I had an accident while trying a horse to buy that changed my life. I've had a lot of riding accidents over the years but this one was life altering.

It took a solid year of making myself ride to even begin to get comfortable again. I had no fear of being around horses at all but taking that step into the saddle caused me to break into a sweat. I would get up then right off. It took determination to overcome that fear of being thrown.

Dumas had some great advise. Just take it one step at a time, have a friend with you to give you that extra amount of confidence, and have faith in your horse. Get some lessons - I can't emphasis that enough.

I'm a whole lot older then you and I overcame it - you can too.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

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Wow, so sorry to hear about your accident, I know what you are talking about when breaking out into a sweat and breathing forget it... I also hold onto the horn I know that is not correct but for now I like it....Not too sure about the age thing I will be 49 and just starting had feelings like I am too old for this.....
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I was 60 when it happened. You're not too old just very cautious. It'll come as long as you want it to.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.


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post #20 of 26 Old 11-06-2008, 12:08 PM
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Not very smart to buy a horse meant for riding when you're afraid of sitting on one, but a good choice to buy a calm, bombproof horse.

I have some little slight idea what you feel, after I broke my wrist I got scared as well. I barely dared to sit on our uber-calm draft horse, but I was lead around, and eventually overcame my fear enough to ride and gallop on the young, unbroken orse that shattered my wrist in the first place :P I guess I have an advantage; I had ridden for 13 years before that without getting scared.

My advice is to sit up, get off, get up again, then proceed to walk a few steps etc. Never do too much, but always do a little more than you're comfortable with.
Spend time around the horse and make sure it's trained ad ridden regulary by someone, or you risk that it will loose both muscle and a part of the calm temper and bombproof-ness if it's not stimulated.


Always keep your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level.


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