So... Before I tell you what I need help with I'm first going to ask that you not yell at me because I know I did things wrong. I want and would really appreciate advice at this point.
My Gelding is about 15 years old. We got him about two years ago and he was my first horse. At first, my family all rode him with probably different techniques which most likely confused him. We then decided that I would be the only one to ride him. Things seemed good but then he wasn't listening to me when I said "woah" , pulled on the snaffle bit, and even his ground manners weren't the best. First of all, not really researching we went and put a hackamore on him and he listened perfectly.. Now I know that that was because the hackamore multiplies the force put on a horse. His ground manners were better because I worked really hard with him and kept patient .
Well, this year things just have been getting worse. At the beginning of the summer, He was still listening well to the hackamore so things were fine. Towards the middle of summer though he's been not listening with the hackamore. I didn't think much about it and he threw fits but before I took him home, we always went the way I wanted and he eventually did listen. But about three and 1/2 weeks ago things were going fine but he suddenly whipped him self around and took off at full speed. It scared the crapt out me that I couldn't get him to slow down and he'd never been this bad. When he did stop, I got off and walked him a little ways back the direction I wanted him to go but then turned for home because I was scared out of my whits about what had happened, Not of the horse. I did research about this time and found out the info. About the hackamore and Have been riding him In a round pen in circles with the snaffle. This horse has never really like my Dad even though he's nice the horse all the time.
I realize now that things were wrong from the start. I have learned alot from this horse and what to do under certain circumstances. I know how to treat a horse and haven't ever hit one. I never want to. I don't ever want to live without a horse. So, I have a friend who had a horse that had done the exact same things my horse has been doing. She knew more what to do though then me. She sold her horse to a different person who now has him doing what ever she wants and he's a very good horse. My thoughts are to sell my horse to a person who will be able to do things right without hesitation and get an easy going horse and start off right from the beginning. Not let it get away with things but yet if things do get bad to get help. I don't want to just give up on the horse I have right now, but I don't want him to get worse. I'm really worried about this so again I ask you for advice only.... If you do yell though, I won't be mad... I'm desperate to have this horse behaving and giving someone pleasure.