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        11-29-2008, 07:50 PM
    Fear of refusals :/

    Ok so a little background info (some of you may be familiar with it from my other posts so i'll keep it brief). My horse and I started jumping in Florida and were really confident (I was practically fearless lol), I felt like we could jump anything and I never questioned my horse or my ability over jumps. Then we moved to Ky moved to a barn that I wasnt comfortable with (I was there for about 7 monthes) and it ruined my confidence. I wasnt comfortable with the trainer so I didnt take many lessons which led to me attempting jumping on my own a few times and having a couple nasty refusals :/.

    Anyway, now I'm at a new barn and back on track (yay lol). We have been working on jumping in a few recent lessons and the only thing that is really holding me back is my fear of refusals. We have been jumping small stuff no problem but everytime my trainer introduces us to a new/different/higher jump I get extremely nervous even though I know we can do them. Sometimes I will push myself and go over them and it is always goes fine, after one time of going over a jump I'm totally fine doing it again (and again and again lol) and I absolutely love it but its that first time over a jump that scares the crap out of me. Other times I have to ask for the jump to be lowered or something (my trainer is awesome and super understanding, she knows we can do it but totally respects my comfort zone). I'm so frustrated with being scared though. Does anyone have a similar situation or any advice? Anything will help lol.
    Thanks :]
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        11-30-2008, 12:35 AM
    The best advise I can offer is to sit up and look over the jump. If you have a good secure position and you sit up till the last moment you will hope fully be more confident that you can stay on. Try to imagine you and your horse on the other side having sucessfully jumped it. Good luck.
        11-30-2008, 04:12 PM
    I dot do jumping but maybe asking your trainer to jump on the horse quickly and jump over the initial jump might be enough to show yourself that its actually ok. And then after a while you will just get it into your head that jumps aren't scary
        11-30-2008, 04:17 PM
    I have the same sort of fear getting on my horse...Once I had a bad experience where he bucked me off and wouldn't let me get back on..every time I got my foot in the stirrup he took off bucking...the only thing that worked for me is to keep doing it and try not to think about being scared. Just focus on what you are about to do. Just be confident with yourself and your horse will sense it and you will both probably be better off!

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