Originally Posted by kitten_Val
I wouldn't send horse to trainer. Had seen number of time what some trainers do to the horse... :( Takes time and time to get trust back. If he's still a COLT, GELD HIM! It certainly makes him even more quiet. And she can get some video on starting the horse. Good trainer to supervise and help would be just great.
What do you mean? I have sent many horses to trainers and had no problems. Just make sure you trust the trainer and have watched them ride before. Ocasionally watch the trainer ride your horse, and if you have any issues confront them. It sounds like you guys are either going to have to send this horse to a trainer, have a trainer CLOSELY supervise you riding, which is tough to do and any little mistake you make that isn't corrected immediately will turn into a huge problem. The first thing you have to decide is do you want a project that may be a pain in the butt sometimes and you may risk injuring yourself? Or do you want a horse you can lolligag around on and have a good time without worrying about it? I have seen a lot of people get green horses and become really frustrated and not enjoy riding. I myself enjoy working with green horses, but I have been riding my whole life, and before I ever broke a horse I took many lessons on different green broke horses, learned how to get past any problems I might have, and I STILL have help when I break a horse. It's a complicated task that is going to take TIME AND MONEY!
Decide if it is really worth it. If you think you want to put the time and money into it, good luck!