Your horse is beautiful!
I personally would not let my riding friends train my horse, but that's only because pretty much all of them jerk a horse in the mouth and punish it for not doing something perfectly and if somone did that to rena we would have a problem.
My friend is very, very light on her horses mouths... I'm a bit heavier handed with my mare, but with my gelding I'm lighter... but my friend is much better than I am.
[quote]I think that since you know how she handles her horses and like how she rides (and you trust her), it might not be a bad idea. One question though, do those "spazzy" horses that she rides, do they get better after she starts riding them or do they stay the same? If they get better then I would probably be willing to let her ride my horse if I wasn't prepared or didn't have time to work them myself. Since you live so close, you can check up on her all the time and see exactly how she is doing. You can give it a shot and if you don't like how she is handling Gypsy, you can always change your mind.[/quote[
She only has one 'spazzy' horse right now, her main riding mare... When she got the mare, she was greenbroke, and now she's a really good horse most of the time. The mare is half blind in one eye, naturally highstrung, and going on six months pregnant, so she's a bit more skittish right now, but she's come a very long way, in my opinion, of how she was when my friend got her two years ago. Sometimes the horse has 'moments' but not very often. My friend also has a Quarterhorse gelding who has no respect and a few months ago was charging at her and acting like he wanted to hurt her... she started working with him more and now he's pretty respectful and doesn't act like he used to. I would go check on my girl quite often, but if she handles Gyps like she handles her own, then I'd be fine.
a lovely horse. No , I would go with my instincts, and not aloow her. I would also get an instructor to come to me and teach me at the same time as the horse, so that I was the rider.
Thanks... I don't have money for an instructor or to send my horse/s to a trainer. I only know of two barns anywhere around here, and both of their prices are outrageous.
I think the real questions here are what are her qualifications as a rider and trainer and is she capable of getting the job done in a way you'll be happy with. Your post seems to indicate that the answers are yes.
If her motivation for offering is to have you back as a riding buddy, well, then, that's lovely.
Do agree on an "escape clause" before your friend comes and gets her - conditions under which either one of you can cancel the deal with no hard feelings.
I feel like she's capable of teaching my girl to flex and 'whoa'. Neither of us are actually 'qualified'... but we've been riding for a long time and I feel like we're good enough to teach our horses what they need to become better and safer trail horses, since that's all we do. Yeah, she wants me to ride with her at least once a week if she does this... that's fine for me, because I don't have money to pay her, so riding with her is perfect... lol. What kind of 'escape clause'? I'm not good on things like that... lol.
Is she a good rider, trainer, etc.? I see 2 possibilities here:
1) Gypsie needs more riding on her. If your friend knows how to deal with horses and is a good rider then I think it's a great idea to let her just ride the horse keep her fit and happy.
2) You really want to RETRAIN her to know this and that. Then no, I think it's best to either send the horse to the real trainer (who does have experience actually training), or take lessons with the knowledgeable instructor. It's really hard to "un-train" the horse taught something in wrong way.
Personally, I'd not send my horses "to retrain" to someone just because he/she is my friend and I trust him/her.
She's a good rider... better than me (just don't tell her I said that...). Gypsie doesn't need more riding put on her, really. She's not a youngster, she knows her job... she's almost 16. She just needs to get her 'whoa' and flexing down better. Right now, she's fairly fit, I'd say... naturally, she stays pretty fit as a 'pasture puff', I never have to do much to get her back into shape.
I think you should invest in a trainer and have he/she come out and help direct you in achieving these goals yourself. There is no better feeling than training your own horse and a trainer is more a trainer for you than the horse, since youll gain the knowledge to deal with these problems in the future, whether they be from your current horse or another one down the road.
Like I said before, I don't have the money to invest in a trainer... and I would like to say that my only experience with a trainer, who actually was a trainer who had worked at a big barn in New york somewhere, can't remember where, was a crap experience... The lady was working for a friend and I didn't like her on sight... she was too 'mouthy' and it was either her way or the highway. I never took a lesson from her or anything, but I rode with her on rails a few times and it wasn't enjoyable... she slapped the horse, kicked visciously, jerked on the horses mouth, and after I heard (from about five different people) that she tried to train a horse to lead by tieing it to the back of a truck and dragging it across the pasture... that really put me off. Not saying all trainers are like that, but well...
I am planning on posibly sending my gelding to a trainer when I get a job... if I ever find a job...
I am going to look into a liability waiver for her and her parents to sign stating that I can't be held liable for any injuries.