I have a friend, and don't get me wrong, she is my VERY BEST friend, who rides and shows. She has been for most of her life now. She used to do western pleasure with her Gorgeous Appy, but he had to be put down last year due to cancer
So after that her parents went out and bought her a new (very expensive) horse. Her parents...well I hate to say it because they are such nice people, but they kind of spoil her. She gets a lot of things and opportunities and doesn't appreciate them. But anyways, she got this new horse and took up eventing. Here's the problem.
This horse was not always a jumping horse. He was a registered reining horse. The trainer that my friend bought him from took him and turned him into an eventer, and to say the least, he hates it. And he has no respect for my friend, which is her own fault. He doesn't ever listen to her. She has to carry a whip every time she is riding, but she won't use spurs?
Well one day she had a couple friends come over (I wasn't there so this is just what she told me, and I saw it after it happened) and she went out to feed the horses. Her horse has major food aggression problems, and when he was crowding her for the food but she wouldn't give it to him until he backed up, he grabbed her NECK with his TEETH!!! She was bleeding a lot and didn't want to "scare her friends" so instead of disciplining the horse for his awful behavior, SHE WENT INSIDE!!! He could have KILLED her if he had bit down hard enough!! She was ok beside a lot of blood and some bruising, but that is just ridiculous.
She wasn't ever really into riding and showing until I started doing it a couple years ago. And now that I have gotten my own horse that I am training and have such a good bond with, she is jealous. She never really has anything nice to say about my horse, and all she does is sit around and complain about her horse. Her mom wants me to come over and work with my friends horse, which I don't have a problem doing except for the fact that SHE should be doing it, not me. So I went over to her house one day and offered to help. But my friend kept putting it off and putting it off until her mom came out and asked me to do it, so I left my friend inside and went out to work with HER horses.
After a little while, she came out. She started babying her horse and said he looked off? I didn't see anything wrong with him, but whatever. All I was doing was lunging him, trying to figure out how well he knew voice commands and such. He had no respect for me or what I was asking him to do. He had no motivation to do anything, and just stood there with his ears back and he kept trying to BITE the lunging whip. I was about to give him a piece of my mind when my friend said he looked off and she wanted me to stop. So, once again, he got away with bad behavior.
Well, I just had to vent because it makes me so mad, and scared for my friend. She sits and talks like she's going to do something with him, but she hasn't done a single thing yet. I just don't know how to get the point across to her that her horse is DANGEROUS and has no respect for anybody and needs to be taught some manners.
If you have any advice on how I could get my fried to see that what is going on is dangerous in a polite way, please comment. But please DO NOT SAY ANYTHING RUDE OR NASTY, because she is still my best friend.