So for those of you that read my previous thread: I've deduced that my problem was about 30% of my horse being full of pep and spunk and being difficult at times, and 70% of the problem is me-being so unconfident in my riding abilities. Since she doesn't buck, rear, kick, bite or bolt with me, I've decided to forge ever onwards in our journey together. For those of you who DIDN'T read my last thread, don't worry about it.
So in my last thread I mentioned having some trouble bridling and getting her to stand still. Yesterday I went out and resolved the big part of her bridling issues in about 10 minutes (yeah, REAL big problem lol) and tonight I'm going to work on getting her to stand. I like to set one goal for us each week that I can work on and see improvements by the next week's riding lesson. And yes, this week I'm going to work on getting her to stand.
So as you may know, my horse has lots of go, and gets quite frustrated when I ask her to stand. She tosses her head and shakes it and tries to move off without me telling her to. What I do currently is ignore the head shaking and make her stand still until I give her a nudge to move off again. If I were on the ground and she did this, I would make her back up, then tell her to stand, and if she didn't I'd make her back up again until she got the point that it's a lot more work to misbehave than stand still. I'm going to try this tactic, but when I'm in the saddle and she is less than agreeable when I ask her to back up she puts up a fight, and [rarely, but sometimes] gives a little rear. How can I make her back up when she doesn't want to? (Obviously, I always fight her until she gives me a step back-I'm not that clueless.)
I've also heard that when they try and move off you can take them in a circle so that moving when they're not supposed to=boring circles, but I'm not really sure it would work with my horse. How does everyone else feel about this idea? Has it worked for your horses? Any details I'd need to know?
AND, finally, when she doesn't want to be standing, and I finally get her to stand still and wait, she moves off really quickly when I tell her she can go. She doesn't run or trot, just walks really fast and refuses to slow down until we're a good way off. If she did THIS while I was on the ground, she'd be stopped, backed up, and then allowed to continue (repeating until she stopped trying to barge ahead of me) so I think I should handle it the same way while riding. But again, if she doesn't want to back up how can I make her? I'm not saying I'm afraid to make her-I literally can't force her to do it while we're riding-she's like, 1000 lbs bigger than me.
Any help and advice would be appreciated-and I'll update again after I've ridden her.. I'm just feeling that even if she is full of wind and piss, which I understand, that's no excuse for her to be ignoring me and I want to put an end to this.