The county that I used to show horses in through 4-h is shrinking. It went from 115 horses to 21 horses within a year. Probably from a mixture of the bad economy and people simply loosing interest. I am a 4-h "graduate" and one of the few english and dressage riders that showed in that county. My 4-h leader wants me to get other riders interested in riding english so hopefully at the next fair there will be more activity. I donated some old tack I don't use: a saddle, bridle, saddle pads, ect. And the thing is no body knows how to ride english. So the club leader had me help one girl with english riding. I'm a decent rider, and I used to be heavily involved with taking lessons from a few great trainers. I first started helping her with showing her how to tack up, and explaining basic stuff. When she mounted I told her how her postition should be and worked on warming up. The lesson I gave her was just very basic material. We did work through a couple of problems her mare had; like being a bit balky and sucking behind the verticle. But pretty much everything I told her was so...basic. She's really quiet and doesn't ever speak up. I'm a shy and kind of awkward girl myself. I know what I want to say, it's just I have a hard time describing it clearly since I get this feeling she's not listening to me since she seems so unfocused. Does anyone have any suggestions to make it easier for me to get more in detail while I'm trying to explain something and also make it less awkward feeling? I can't really read her if she's enjoying it or not. Should I ask her questions like "do you understand that?" or something just for clarifcation since she doesn't really say anything. I'm not getting paid or anything, and I don't claim to be a trainer I'm just helping kids get started on english.